Yes, most of a person’s beliefs are formed at a young age.

As for becoming better at attracting women, you’re looking to acquire subconscious competence. When you practice something often, and understand it intuitively, it becomes instinctual.

Watch a great boxer at work. He doesn’t think to himself, “Maybe I should weave now, circle around, and come back with a left hook.”

He does it based on honed instinct. Naturally, there is some strategy and thinking that takes place but the basics are instinctually grasped. (Watch any professional athlete, basketball, football, Tennis….)

How do you get there?
Improving yourself image, letting go of limitations & old beliefs, gaining conscious competence, and practicing what you have learned.

(All stuff I cover in chapter 2 of My Audio Course, by the way ;-)

It’s also having an open attitude to learn and implement new information with a positive attitude. (meaning you don’t tie in your willingness to learn with your self-esteem.) Learning to better yourself does not mean something is wrong with you. To me, it means, there is something very right. I tend to think there is something wrong if you want to be stagnant all the time. (Well, not “Wrong”, but not my cup of tea.) You get the point.

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What you are advocating is referred to as “Cognitive Behavioral Therapy.” In the Snake example, it’s one way to get out of a phobia, but it’s not the only one.

You can reference the example I give in Part 2 of Strengthening your Innergame regarding the guy who fell off the roof of his house at age 9.

How do I do that? Any recommended reading?

On the ‘nuances’ and ‘simplicity’ theme; when I first got into the game and really applied myself based on my scant knowledge (mostly on C&F/negs, appearance, and Body Language) I got some great beginners luck. I wonder if that was actually because I was basically being 80% my ‘old’ self who probably wasn’t all that bad after all, but with a few modifications. I kept it *simple* through lack of knowledge.

But then I got sucked into all the nuances. Became a keyboard jockey. Didn’t really improve my game and while I got good at ‘pumping buying temperature’ and had some ‘crazy party girl situations’ I never really got back the ‘good luck’ I had at the start when basically I made a girl really fall for me.

Then after about 12-18 months I got jaded. I realized I was in love with the game itself rather than the end result and started to lose my ‘obsession’.

And now? Two years in and I still have a strong -interest- but now I’m back to my old pre-game AFC self. Or at least I *feel* like I am. But although I’m not a ‘player’ I get *much* more interest from girls than I did 2 years ago and make friends much more easily in general. I think I have internalized a lot of what I’ve learned. So although I don’t *conciously* apply it so much it has changed my vibe and now I feel a)socially much more confident and b) at least more in-tune and *competent*, if not ‘expert’ with women.

Is that a familiar pattern to anyone else?

I’ve read other psychology material (non dating related) which states our subconscious/habitual mind is the result of old “programming” done to our brains from when we were younger. The programming I’m referring to is a collection of beliefs. Naturally the question is, how do we reprogram ourselves?

It is possible for us to consciously learn how to attract women and to learn mindsets to be successful. However, it is said our subconscious mind operates between 95-99% of the time. So even if we learn new things, if it isn’t subconsciously internalized then our “old selves” will resurface even if we consciously oppose it. I believe this is something bigger than attracting women.