Comments on: 10 Real World Dating Tips for the Normal Guy

By: Max Breen

Max Breen — Tue, 16 Jun 2009 12:47:57 +0000

Totally agree about the confidence thing. Intelligent people analyze things too much and they are more aware of their faults and those of other people. The bottom line though is that even if they are right it is totally unhelpful and negative. It is way better to be confident than right when it comes to socializing. Erika is totally right about this. They are judging themselves before anyone else has even started. It is all in their own head and therefore they are just limiting themselves.

Also agree with the point about neediness. That’s such an important part of being confident. Not needing anyone to validate you or make you feel secure. Not caring what people think. That is an attractive quality to have.

By: Dave

Dave — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 21:44:42 +0000

I’m big fans of #3 and #8, and those two points in general seem like they are not emphasized enough in other schools of thought, which seem to focus more on approaching and “cold calls” in a club or social environment.

If you become more interesting and appealing, then you become more attractive, and you attract women in the course of doing things that you like to do.

If you know what kind of women you like and what qualities turn you on, then you can become involved in those activities that will put you in the proximity of those women. Get involved with promoting events if you like club chicks. Join or form a band if you want to attract… well, just about any girl. Develop a hobby in photography if you like being around models, or video if you like actresses. Whatever thing that you like, you can find some hobby or career that puts you around that kind of girl significantly more than you are right now.

I suspect that these are not emphasized because they are not quick turn-around sorts of magic bullets and involve a person spending time developing themselves as a person outside of the whole “pick-up” arena.

By: dni

dni — Thu, 11 Jun 2009 01:36:11 +0000

I like how a “normal guy” is opposed to a “community guy”, hahaha

By: George

George — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 21:11:48 +0000

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By: Petr

Petr — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 09:06:17 +0000

Good points, but I kinda miss “body language” point. Very important for me and imho definitely worth working on. I even use it to calm down when i feel under pressure or nervous (not only in social context) – I check my body and I usually find some pressure or tension (making a fist, fidgeting, uncomfortable posiiton, etc.) So I just stop doing that, find myself a comfortable position, and relax.

I guess this works in both directions: subconscious mind affects body and body affects subconscious mind. Of course this is no “magic pill” but it works for me.

By: Cameron

Cameron — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 02:41:00 +0000

Chica,

I may write more Blog articles in the future regarding flirting skills.

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Erika,

Glad you’re finally reading my old articles regarding Analytical men
;-)

By: Erika

Erika — Wed, 10 Jun 2009 02:06:08 +0000

The analytical guys have it the worst, Cameron. They’re always judging themselves before anyone else even has a chance to judge them, so they censor everything they say and come off as boring. Not spontaneous or fun. Gotta get them out of their heads :-)

By: chica

chica — Mon, 08 Jun 2009 11:35:07 +0000

Hey cameron. Good points. I think I need to work on at least half of these, but the one that stands out is how to flirt. Do yo have any advice on how to learn this skill, if you’re already comfortable talking with women, but only in a friendly manner? Articles on what steps to take to develop each of these points would be fantastic, if you have the time.

thanks,

chica