{"id":1008,"date":"2009-06-18T20:00:39","date_gmt":"2009-06-19T03:00:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/?p=1008"},"modified":"2011-11-04T10:45:08","modified_gmt":"2011-11-04T17:45:08","slug":"working-a-specific-niche-is-it-for-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/2009\/06\/18\/working-a-specific-niche-is-it-for-you\/","title":{"rendered":"Working A Specific Niche.  Is It For You?"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #ff6600;\">Your Niche In Dating<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>.<\/p>\n<p>Yesterday, I discussed the notion of &#8220;Pure Game&#8221; and how it does not exist.\u00a0 It&#8217;s a myth perpetuated to provide the illusion that you are omnipotent and can get every girl because you&#8217;re just a master of the Game.\u00a0 Most men who are naturals learn to use their strengths early on.\u00a0 They don&#8217;t consider a form leverage as a cheating mechanism.<\/p>\n<p>There is a flip side to this &#8220;Perfect Game&#8221; equation, as well.\u00a0 There are those who reply on specific niches that they hold in order to meet girls.\u00a0 Again, nothing wrong with this.\u00a0 Use what you got.\u00a0 Put your best foot forward.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>The issue arises when guys who are working specific niches designed to get specific archetypes of girls\u00a0 start giving dating advice on a mass level.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>They give shotgun solutions designed for everyone.\u00a0 In reality, they&#8217;re doing a very specific thing designed to work for them in attracting a specific type of woman.\u00a0 Let&#8217;s use an extreme example to make it glaringly obvious.\u00a0 Let&#8217;s assume a guy was paying prostitutes for sex and this was his main source of meeting women.\u00a0 Fine.\u00a0\u00a0 Not my place to judge.<\/p>\n<p>Let&#8217;s assume that, now, that guy wants to give you, me and everyone else dating advice on how to meet and attract women.\u00a0 It&#8217;s slightly skewed, wouldn&#8217;t you say?\u00a0 If his advice was geared towards how to find the best rate prostitutes and effectively negotiate with them, it&#8217;d be properly within perspective.\u00a0 After all, he knows more about that dynamic than you and I.\u00a0 He could tell us how to negotiate the best rates, if we should tip or not,\u00a0and how to make small talk with the\u00a0big boss man.\u00a0 It&#8217;d all be justified.<\/p>\n<p>Yet, it&#8217;s obvious that he is working a niche that is not applicable to others who are not interested in hiring hookers.\u00a0 This same dynamic applies to someone whose main mechanism of getting women&#8217;s attention is getting &#8220;Bottle Service&#8221;\u00a0 at a trendy nightclub to the tune of $1500, and offering club freeloader girls free booze.\u00a0\u00a0 (Or even free cocaine.)<\/p>\n<p>So that we&#8217;re crystal clear:\u00a0 It&#8217;s not &#8220;cheating.&#8221;\u00a0 Bottle-Service is a mechanism set in place for that specific reason.\u00a0 If that guy was writing articles on how to specifically use bottle service, drugs, and alcohol\u00a0to get girls to your table\u00a0in a nightclub, it&#8217;d make perfect sense.\u00a0\u00a0 However, there is, one problem: That guy wants to give advice on how to meet all sorts of girls in all sorts of circumstances when all he knows is how to use bottle service.<\/p>\n<p>In some ways, the Pure-Game advocate is on the opposite side of the &#8220;Buy your way in&#8221; guy.\u00a0 Yet, there is irony here.\u00a0 In a strange way, they&#8217;re exactly the same: They both want to force rigid systems that are designed for specific contexts down people&#8217;s throats. They want to push results emanating from a specific context as a solution applicable to all context.<\/p>\n<p>Is what they&#8217;re doing legitimate?\u00a0 Well, sure, you can make a case that anything that works is legitimate.\u00a0 If you&#8217;re looking to get laid, going to a brothel is legitimate.\u00a0 It gets results.\u00a0 In fact, it gets results a 100% of the time.\u00a0 It just should be called for what it is.\u00a0\u00a0 It shouldn&#8217;t be sold as a shotgun solution for everyone.<\/p>\n<p>There should be a disclaimer: &#8220;This advice is meant to get you these types of women in XYZ circumstances.&#8221;\u00a0 That would enable men to understand the APPLICATION of that particular advice.\u00a0 (Well, come to think of it, that&#8217;s one of the goals of this Blog.)<\/p>\n<p><em><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">In some ways, this is one of the most elemental flaws in seduction community people: <strong>Lack of context<\/strong>.<\/span> There is\u00a0 time you tease someone and there is a time, you don&#8217;t.\u00a0 There is a time you can straight forward and tell a woman &#8220;I&#8217;d love to rip that shirt off of you&#8221; &amp; there is a time where it&#8217;s inappropriate and completely out of context.<\/em><\/p>\n<blockquote><p>Part of the learning curve is developing the social intelligence to know <em>what to say when<\/em>, and <em>when to say what.<\/em> Unfortunately, social intelligence is discouraged (outside of my blog), because it doesn&#8217;t fall in line with systems and rigid methods.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>One can learn a thing or two from a variety of people.\u00a0 There are a lot of dating advisors and most of them don&#8217;t have very good advice.\u00a0 You can still take away 10% of their message that is valid.\u00a0 At the same time, you have to use common sense.\u00a0 Is the person giving advice seem like someone who seems legitimate?\u00a0 Does his advice and lifestyle jive with you?<\/p>\n<p>.<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_1017\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-1017\" style=\"width: 200px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-1017\" src=\"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/06\/dev-douche.gif\" alt=\"\" width=\"200\" height=\"233\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-1017\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Sure, I can help you Meet girls.....<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes in the zeal for quickfix solutions and perhaps amidst of desperation, we can lose our persepctive and common sense.\u00a0 Hence, let&#8217;s look at a severly fat guy, wearing (what appear to be) clown shoes, a big Hawaiian shirt who is proud of being super chunky and mocks those who make phyiscal fitness a part of their life.\u00a0 He also sounds creepy.\u00a0 Is this someone you&#8217;d normally trust in every day life?\u00a0 If he sat next to you in the train, you&#8217;d jump out the emergency window.\u00a0 Yet, slap the label of guru on the guy and now, we tend to overlook and ignore our gutfeelings too.<\/p>\n<p>Whom you chose to take advice from is your business, but ask yourself a few basic common-sense questions:<\/p>\n<p>1.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Is this in line with <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">my ethics<\/span>?<\/p>\n<p>2.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Does this fit <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">my personality?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>3.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Does this apply to <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">my lifestyle?<\/span><\/p>\n<p>4.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Does this apply to the <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">type of women<\/span> I want to attract?<\/p>\n<p>5.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Does this apply to the <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">type of relationships<\/span> I want to have with those women?<\/p>\n<p>6.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Is this <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">sustainable<\/span>?<\/p>\n<p>7.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Can I imagine this person operating in normal society in a somewhat\u00a0normal manner?<\/p>\n<p>Look at the above questions and answer them for yourself.\u00a0 For example, if you read my articles, you&#8217;ll see a call to action as far as being involved in physical fitness, dressing better &amp; 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