{"id":1083,"date":"2009-07-03T13:25:39","date_gmt":"2009-07-03T20:25:39","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/?p=1083"},"modified":"2010-05-30T15:44:55","modified_gmt":"2010-05-30T22:44:55","slug":"rewiring-your-nervous-system-to-new-habits","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/2009\/07\/03\/rewiring-your-nervous-system-to-new-habits\/","title":{"rendered":"The Well Known Secret To Improving in Anything"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>One of the important elements in becoming better at anything is going to depend on a relatively simple concept: Nervous system adaptation.\u00a0\u00a0 In order to become better at that activity, you must rewire your nervous system to respond automatically, systematically, as well as effortlessly.<\/p>\n<p>Most people who partake in new activities, unfortunately, do not take put the work required to rewire the nervous system.\u00a0 The nervous system is mainly operated by the subconscious mind.\u00a0 Many of your daily actions done without thinking, such as driving, are carried out by the subconscious mind. Take a moment to think about it.\u00a0 You don&#8217;t actually think, &#8220;I should ease on the gas pedal, I ought to slightly press the break, and look left.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>You just do it as you have done a 1000 times before, and sometimes you even do it while talking on the cell phone, and then you get people like me honking the horn at you to get moving.<\/p>\n<p>In doing that action a 1000 times, you&#8217;ve also rewired your nervous system to have a feel for the act of driving.\u00a0 You instinctively know how fast you can operate your vehicle during a sharp curve before you lose control of the car and end up in a ditch.<\/p>\n<p>Our brain fires a signal\/impulses that are carried by the neurons to the muscles in our body.\u00a0 Basic biology.\u00a0 When an activity is done enough time, it automatically knows how to fire those sequences of synapses precisely and appropriately. \u00a0You&#8217;ve probably heard the sports cliche, &#8220;Muscle Memory.&#8221; \u00a0In reality, it&#8217;s nervous system adaptation.<\/p>\n<ul class=\"unIndentedList\">\n<li>Example:<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Let&#8217;s look at a combination of punches in Boxing:<\/p>\n<p>1.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Left jab,<br \/>\n2.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Right cross,<br \/>\n3.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Left hook,<br \/>\n4.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Right uppercut,<\/p>\n<p>Professional Boxers practice that combination \u00a0(As well as many other combo sequences) for months\/years, hours and hours a day.\u00a0 It&#8217;s to rewire nervous system to respond quickly, fire the nerve impulses quickly and subconsciously.<\/p>\n<p>In fact, if you&#8217;ve never done any boxing training, or if you&#8217;re training is limited to the Mickey Mouse cardio-kickbox classes at your local gym, you&#8217;ll appreciate the disparity the training provides.<\/p>\n<p>As an experiment, it&#8217;d be great if you could go to a gym, and start punching a heavy bag, using the above combination.\u00a0 (Or better yet have someone hold focus mitts for ya.)\u00a0\u00a0 Have the instructor show you exactly HOW to do it.\u00a0 He can explain to you for an hour the mechanics and proper form of each punch.\u00a0 Then it&#8217;s your turn it to actually do it.<\/p>\n<p>Do it.\u00a0 Film it.\u00a0 Watch yourself.\u00a0 Then watch film of a professional boxer doing the same combo.\u00a0 Put a blindfold on him, and watch him perform.\u00a0 There&#8217;ll hardly be a difference in the professional&#8217;s performance even with the blindfold.<\/p>\n<p>Why?\u00a0 Because he has trained that combination amongst many others for years now.\u00a0 He has practiced each of those sequence tens of thousands of times.\u00a0 Now, he doesn&#8217;t think, his subconscious mind takes over, his nervous system fires synapses and impulses automatically.\u00a0 It operates much like a well-oiled machine, smoothly, efficiently, without hesitation, hick ups, or confusion.<\/p>\n<p>The same process applies to developing skills in dating and attracting women.\u00a0 This is not to imply that you need to approach 10,000 women.\u00a0 Rather, you ought to practice your newfound skills.<\/p>\n<p>I come across guys who tell me they&#8217;ve approached 3000 women in the last couple of years.\u00a0 That&#8217;s a lot more than I have during that same time span, and it&#8217;s certainly 10 times more than most guys I know who are successful with women.\u00a0 Yet, they [3000 approaches guys] tell me that they have had 3 dates during that time span.<\/p>\n<p>Below is a video.\u00a0 See this guy?\u00a0 He is what would be considered a complete jerkoff in the gym world. \u00a0Actually, putting that video on youtbue makes him a jerk off in any world.\u00a0 He is using poor form to move the weights about one to two inches.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 It&#8217;d be curious to see if he is strong enough to bench press a 150 pounds properly lying on his back using and actually moving the weight. \u00a0The video is 2 minutes long, worth a good laugh. \u00a0Watch it, we&#8217;ll discuss below.<\/p>\n<p><object classid=\"clsid:d27cdb6e-ae6d-11cf-96b8-444553540000\" width=\"425\" height=\"350\" codebase=\"http:\/\/download.macromedia.com\/pub\/shockwave\/cabs\/flash\/swflash.cab#version=6,0,40,0\"><param name=\"src\" value=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/v\/QzKEyVRoORE\" \/><embed type=\"application\/x-shockwave-flash\" width=\"425\" height=\"350\" src=\"http:\/\/www.youtube.com\/v\/QzKEyVRoORE\"><\/embed><\/object><\/p>\n<p>Regardless, he has worked his way to 700 pounds using his jerkoff method.\u00a0\u00a0 Why is he fascinating?\u00a0 He is the equivalent to the guy doing 3000 approaches and getting 3 dates that didn&#8217;t go anywhere.\u00a0\u00a0 The jerkoff in the video would be also equivalent to a guy starting boxing training and just flailing his arms randomly into the air as though he is trying to swat flies.\u00a0 \u00a0(By the way, it&#8217;s only fitting that this &#8220;Doctor&#8221; is also a fitness trainer.)<\/p>\n<p>It goes to the sports clich\u00e9 that, &#8220;Practice doesn&#8217;t make perfect.\u00a0 <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Perfect Practice makes perfec<\/span>t.&#8221;\u00a0 Rewiring your nervous system to respond the way it should.\u00a0 I know it sounds ambiguous at the moment but I&#8217;ll clear it up quickly.\u00a0 Someone who is naturally good with girls may read this post and think, &#8220;What the fuck is Cameron talking about?\u00a0 Rewire your nervous system?\u00a0 Just go and talk to girls.&#8221;<\/p>\n<p>He is right in that a major part of this is just talking to girls, but then, I&#8217;d guarantee you that the person who is successful with women has a good tonality naturally.\u00a0 He is at ease talking to women; he is not nervously stumbling over his words.\u00a0 For him, it&#8217;s obvious: Just go and talk to them.<\/p>\n<p>I&#8217;d agree with the general assessment of talking to girls without making it complicated.\u00a0 I&#8217;d add that the person looking to improve in his ability to attract women ought to develop certain foundational skills that the &#8220;Naturally Good with Women&#8221; guy already has!<\/p>\n<p>For example, let&#8217;s talk about <strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">tonality<\/span><\/strong>.\u00a0 Those of you, who have listened to my audio product, have heard the chapter regarding tonality.\u00a0\u00a0 You know there are exercises in there to help you develop your voice tone. \u00a0\u00a0A plethora of exercises to help create better tonality.<\/p>\n<p>Want to get really good at this stuff?\u00a0 Take a 6 -8 week period and practice those exercises 5 times a week for <strong>15 minutes a day.<\/strong> 15 minutes is not a lot of time.\u00a0 It&#8217;s doable.\u00a0 Do them at home, or do them in the car while you are driving. While doing them, should you discover variations that really click with you, do those as well.<\/p>\n<p>5 times a week for 6 to 8 weeks.\u00a0 It&#8217;ll play enormous dividends.\u00a0 It&#8217;ll improve your tonality by leaps and bounds.\u00a0 You are, in essence, REWIRING YOUR HABITS.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 If you already have a smooth delivery that resembles that of Mickey Rourke or a booming voice that is reminiscent of James Earl Jones, then obviously you&#8217;ve got the tonality covered.\u00a0 (In my experience, most guys who seek dating advice suffer from really poor tonality.)<\/p>\n<p>Many people don&#8217;t take any action to seek proper advice.\u00a0 Some do, but won&#8217;t put it in practice.\u00a0 Some people seek advice, learn a series of wrong things and persist on doing the wrong things over and over.<\/p>\n<p>The way <strong><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">I<\/span><\/strong> see it, only 20% of people ever do anything to achieve their goals. 80% get filtered out at some point.\u00a0 We can take fitness as a good analogy.\u00a0 The world is full of people who talk about doing some sort of a fitness program but don&#8217;t ever actually do it.\u00a0 \u00a0Here is how they get filtered out:<\/p>\n<p>People who make excuses, people who talk about it but don&#8217;t do it, people who try it once and forget about it, and then you have the annoying pests.\u00a0 The ones with the new Year&#8217;s resolutions who start EVERY January and are done by mid February, again, and again, again.<\/p>\n<p>And perhaps in their own special category, you have those who the wrong sort of thing and never even come close to achieve their goals.\u00a0 (Example: The jerkoff in the video I posted.) In his own mind, he is a legend who can lift 700 pounds. \u00a0Imagine if you met that guy at a party! \u00a0He&#8217;d impress you with his stories of lifting 700 pounds. \u00a0When you see what he is doing, different story.<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re going to get better, practice. Learn the right information to make perfect practice. \u00a0REWIRE your nervous system, better your skills, and practice doing the right things over and over.\u00a0\u00a0 <em>Aspire to be part of the 10-20% of people who actually do<\/em><\/p>\n<blockquote><p>You might be thinking, &#8220;OK, Cameron, this pseudoscientific sounding stuff sounds nice and everything, but what&#8217;s the message to take away?&#8221;<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>Here is the simplified version:<\/p>\n<p>1.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Understanding how to do something does not equal its application.<\/p>\n<p>2.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 In order to apply the learned information, you must practice it.<\/p>\n<p>3.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Practicing it is not enough.\u00a0 You must practice perfectly.<\/p>\n<p>Whether you&#8217;re lifting weights, learning to knit, or learning to become better at attracting women, it&#8217;s wise to learn the right information <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">practicing it perfectly<\/span>.\u00a0 It&#8217;s not about incessantly just approaching 1000s of women.\u00a0 Talking to women and socializing is part of it.\u00a0 You have to practice your conversational skills, story telling skills, tonality, social acuity, as well as a number of other attributes. 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