{"id":1580,"date":"2010-01-22T07:00:59","date_gmt":"2010-01-22T14:00:59","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/?p=1580"},"modified":"2012-09-11T14:22:59","modified_gmt":"2012-09-11T21:22:59","slug":"strength-is-generated-from-within","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/2010\/01\/22\/strength-is-generated-from-within\/","title":{"rendered":"Strength Is Generated from Within"},"content":{"rendered":"

How To Develop Strength & Power as a Man<\/span><\/h1>\n

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Like you, I\u2019ve read my fair share of self-help advice.\u00a0 I\u2019ve listened to enough people, and have taken from it what I can.\u00a0 It can be a slippery slope however.\u00a0 Too often, self-help becomes sort of a religion where people become void of independent thought, and depended upon their guru of choice.\u00a0 Phrases such as “Keep Your Power” and “Don’t give you power away” become common place cliches.<\/p>\n

How do you create that power?\u00a0 Some say power is the ultimate aphrodisiac.\u00a0\u00a0 If so how do you get it?\u00a0 There are all sorts of techniques out there as to how to create the illusion that you\u2019re powerful, and there is much advice to the tune of \u201cDon\u2019t give your power away\u201d or \u201cKeep your power\u201d in the dating realm and interpersonal relationships between human beings in general.\u00a0 (Be it lovers, coworkers, your boss, and so forth.)<\/p>\n

But then, you have to wonder, is power merely a position?\u00a0 Do you have to be appointed to some sort of a higher position to have power?\u00a0\u00a0 Certainly, someone can point to a dictator and say he has power.\u00a0 He can order executions at will, and controls the army.\u00a0 But that\u2019s really not the kind of power we are after, (And if that\u2019s what you seek, you\u2019re reading the wrong blog.)<\/p>\n

So perhaps power is the wrong word to use here.\u00a0 Dating-coaches specially talk about \u201cHey, keep your power.\u00a0 Don\u2019t give it away.\u201d\u00a0 Certainly, it\u2019s well intentioned, but power is not about control over other people.\u00a0 Really, what it comes down to is personal power.\u00a0 The personal power you have over your own actions, and you don’t need to attend 25 Tony Robbins seminars to gain control of it.\u00a0 It\u2019s power over things YOU Can control, your decisions, ideals, emotions, and actions.<\/p>\n

I\u2019d say what we\u2019re really talking about is Strength<\/span><\/strong>.<\/p>\n

Strength is what we\u2019re after in this realm.\u00a0 Not physical strength,\u00a0but rather, \u00a0mental strength.\u00a0 Mental strength is what separates many phenomenal athletes from just the good ones.\u00a0 Personal strength is respected, whereas power often times enforced.<\/p>\n

So how do we build that strength?\u00a0 I believe that strength is built through accomplishing goals. To be more specific, setting up small tasks and accomplishing them.\u00a0 Much like physical strength, it\u2019s built in increments.\u00a0 If you were going to make it a goal to lift 200 pounds (or whatever,) and all you can lift right now is 50, then you would need to build that strength.\u00a0 You\u2019re not jumping from 50 to 200 overnight.\u00a0 But you can build the strength gradually.<\/p>\n

Same comes with mental strength.\u00a0 It\u2019s built over a period of time, but it\u2019s stuff no one teaches you in school. They teach you everything else but there is no class on how to create resolve and what you want.<\/p>\n

Strength is about resolve, it\u2019s about not compromising, and it\u2019s about keeping and acting in line with your ideals and values.<\/p>\n

A good example of Strength is action is the popular movie \u201cGladiator<\/em>\u201d starring Russell Crowe.\u00a0\u00a0In watching the film we find 2 central characters:\u00a0\u00a0 We have Caesar\u2019s replacement played by Juaqin Phoenix; and we have Russell\u2019s character Maximus<\/em>.<\/p>\n

We love Maximus, but can\u2019t stand the new Caesar.\u00a0\u00a0 Maximus has strength, the Caesar has power.\u00a0 Maximus\u2019s strength comes from within, where as Caesar\u2019s power was given to him by the position he was awarded.\u00a0 Nobody watches that movie and likes Caesar, though clearly he rules the entire land.\u00a0 With the pointing of his thumb, he can decide the fate of a man, and yet he fights to have any sort of respect through his reign.\u00a0 Yet, no one walks away from that film wishing he were that Caesar character.\u00a0 People walk away wanting to be similar to the Maximus character for he represents all of the things we wish we were.<\/p>\n

Maximus stands for ideas and virtues that we respect, or wish we could have:\u00a0 The ability to stand for what we believe in, loyalty, valor, courage, and follow-through.\u00a0\u00a0 He stands for strength<\/em> and honor<\/em>, <\/span>and it\u2019s the reason why such characters throughout the history of cinema as well as literature have been revered.<\/p>\n

All of that seems great and flowery perhaps, but where does it leave you?\u00a0 A lot of men who seek advice online are seeking that strength in their relationships.\u00a0 It may be in approaching women, feeling better about themselves, or maintaining a better relationship with their girlfriend\/wives.<\/p>\n

Sometimes this issue is compounded by a philosophy of \u201cGet laid at any cost\u201d which certain people tend to possess and pass down.\u00a0 Walking away from a situation as an option, because then you didn\u2019t get laid with that particular girl, and hence you lost.\u00a0 That certainly is one perspective, but keep in mind that it\u2019s just one perspective, and if you were to observe men who are most successful in attracting women, you\u2019d find that those who do display personal strength are far ahead of those who do not.<\/p>\n

Yes, in other words, our character Maximus would do far better in attracting women, and the friendship of other men than would your average \u201cCompromise yourself to brag that you got laid at any cost\u201d person.<\/p>\n

Here is what it all comes down to: A person possess certain ideals and values which he is not willing to compromise, be it in dating or whatever the scenario may be.\u00a0 Here is a quick dating example just for kicks:\u00a0\u00a0 An attractive girl you\u2019re talking with (or dating) talks negatively about a friend of yours whom you hold in high regard.\u00a0 What do you do?<\/p>\n

Do you tell her that you hold that person in high regard, and while she is certainly entitled to her opinion, you\u2019re not going to stand for your friend being slandered?\u00a0 Or Do you say nothing\u00a0 hoping that your silence will enhance your chances of getting laid?<\/p>\n

There is difference in strength and intestinal fortitude.\u00a0 Again, to hammer the point home, it\u2019s the reason we admire Maximus.\u00a0 We know beyond any doubt that if he were our friend, he\u2019d speak up in that situation.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s that he will stand for his ideals.\u00a0 It\u2019s why the following photograph is one that is infinitely powerful and timeless:<\/p>\n

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Man vs. Tank<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

A man versus tank is the equivalent of a mouse challenging an elephant.\u00a0 Yet, that guy is willing to stand there and face the consequences, while standing up for his values and his ideals.<\/p>\n

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Strength comes from within.\u00a0 It\u2019s easy to be the guy in the tank.\u00a0 It\u2019s not easy to stand up knowing you may get flattened into a pancake by that tank.\u00a0 That\u2019s the difference in strength.\u00a0 The guy inside the tank has power.\u00a0\u00a0 The guy standing in front of it has strength!!
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“All of this Strength-talk is great, Cameron!\u00a0 How do you build it?”<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Strength is built by setting up small goals, and then, accomplishing those small goals. Every single time you accomplish one such goal, you build strength.\u00a0 You build resolve. Some people call it character. <\/span><\/em><\/p>\n

Lacking resolve and strength of character, people turn to all sorts of mythical creatures, invisible genie in the universe who brings you things while you sit on your behind making demands.\u00a0 But you and I know better than that.<\/p>\n

You know best where you\u2019re at in life. You know your own strength level and different people are at different points.\u00a0 It\u2019s not a judgment on who is better or stronger.\u00a0 It\u2019s simply knowing where you are and where you want to go.\u00a0 If you need more strength to get where you\u2019re going, then you need to start by making small changes, taking those incremental steps.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s really the only way to do it.\u00a0 Don\u2019t take my word for it, however.\u00a0 Study the lives of historical figures and you shall find the same pattern.\u00a0\u00a0 Whether your goal is to achieve great things, get a new job, or simply lose 50 pounds of fat, it starts with setting up small goals and knocking them down.<\/p>\n

You may say to me, \u201cThis is a dating blog and this advice doesn\u2019t help me immediately.\u00a0 If I attend a house party, I still don\u2019t know what to say to a girl standing nearby.\u00a0 I don\u2019t know how to make proper conversation and flirt, and etc, etc, etc\u2026\u2026\u2026..\u201c<\/em><\/p>\n

That\u2019s a fair point. This article is not about approaching, what to say, how to flirt, obviously.\u00a0 Those are skills you learn as you go along (and yes my 16 CD audio course is a great resource for this), and yet, you have to still realize that there is a balance to be struck.<\/p>\n

As for me personally, I\u2019ve learned that you have to take steps to build strength, and to put it in layman\u2019s terms, you don\u2019t jump from lifting 50 pounds to 500.\u00a0 The guy who wins the most Valuable player award in professional sports didn\u2019t get there in one giant leap either.\u00a0 It took guts and it took courage and along the way, he also built strength.<\/p>\n

You have to find ways to bolster your identity, who you are, what you stand for, and what you project on to the world.\u00a0 Since this blog is dedicated to the dating, then it ought to be mentioned that those things [Identity &\u00a0Values]<\/em> cannot be determined by the validation of women in a nightclub.\u00a0 Just as similar, if you\u2019re a woman, that identity can\u2019t be determined by what sort of a man you date or how wealthy of a man you land.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

Strength comes from within.<\/em><\/p>\n

It\u2019s that simple.<\/p>\n

Again, how do you build strength? One inch at a time.\u00a0 It\u2019s the inches around us that add up.<\/p>\n

In fact, who is better at giving long motivational speeches than Al Pacino?\u00a0 Pretty much, No one.\u00a0 And let\u2019s be honest, when you have Oliver Stone as Director and Pacino as lead actor, you have the movie making equivalent of an orgasm.\u00a0\u00a0 So with all of that mind, sit back, blast that volume high, and watch the Inch by Inch Speech from the end of \u201cAny Given Sunday<\/em>\u201d:<\/p>\n

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“Because we know when we add up all those inches, that’s gonna make the fucking difference between winning and losing.”<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Cameron<\/p>\n

PS.\u00a0 The article \u00a0that you\u2019ve just read will significantly impact your dating life..\u00a0 Please realize that it is supporting material to what I discuss in my expanded work. Get a copy here:\u00a0\u00a0 Building Attraction Audio Course<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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