{"id":1610,"date":"2010-01-25T13:28:06","date_gmt":"2010-01-25T20:28:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/?p=1610"},"modified":"2010-05-31T22:03:54","modified_gmt":"2010-06-01T05:03:54","slug":"how-can-you-be-direct-be-a-challenge","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/2010\/01\/25\/how-can-you-be-direct-be-a-challenge\/","title":{"rendered":"How can you Be &#8220;Direct&#8221; &#038; Be a Challenge?"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\">\u00a0 <span style=\"color: #ff0000;\">How to be a Challenge to Women <\/span><\/h2>\n<p>.<\/p>\n<p>I received a question about a guy wanting to know how he can be a &#8220;challenge&#8221; while he is being direct with women.\u00a0 Fred\u00a0wrote:<\/p>\n<blockquote><p>literally all girls say they like a Challenge.\u00a0\u00a0 now if a guy uses direct day game\u00a0 like &#8220;you looked adorable,&#8221; how Can a guy demonstrate that he is a &#8221; Challenge&#8221;?\u00a0 i mean showing interest and demonstratig oneself as a &#8220;prize&#8221; in the first meeting?\u00a0\u00a0 literally all girls say &#8220;I am looking for a man who is a Challenge.&#8221;\u00a0 In my opinion guy is a &#8220;Challenge&#8221; only when the girl already knows him through her friends and the guy behaves disinterested.<\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0What you\u2019re asking about depends on a multitude of factors that affect the dynamics of the interaction.\u00a0 In a simple format, here are those factors:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Context of Interaction:\u00a0 How are you meeting? Cold Approach or through social circles. (there is a huge difference between the two.)<\/li>\n<li>Personality of a girl.\u00a0 What type of girl is she?\u00a0\u00a0 What archetype?\u00a0 You talking to a ambitious educated woman or a club chick who is out drinking 4 nights a week?<\/li>\n<li>\u00a0What she is looking for as well.\u00a0<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>\u00a0All of those factors influence an initial approach.\u00a0 That\u2019s why cold-approaching is a low percentage game.\u00a0 She may be looking for a boyfriend and you come in way too \u201cplayerish\u201d and the interaction goes sour.\u00a0 You may present yourself as guy who has his shit together, good career, great friends, and she can\u2019t handle it, because she is a loser really only comfortable being with another drunk loser who sells crystal meth on the side.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0There are a lot of variables that come into play.\u00a0 I just provided a few examples.\u00a0 There is no holy grail of cold approaching.\u00a0 Understand that.\u00a0 It\u2019s a percentage game, by nature.\u00a0 You just try to create better odds by knowing what you\u2019re doing and a bit of social intelligence.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>.<\/p>\n<p>Now, with all of the above in mind, let\u2019s talk about you wanting to be a challenge:\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 <strong>A.\u00a0 A matter of Context and Interpretation.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0You have to also understand that the same sentneces has two different meanings to you and the girl.\u00a0 You are looking to get laid!\u00a0 You\u2019re looking to stick your penis in her vagina.\u00a0 Let\u2019s be honest here.\u00a0 So a challenge to you is getting her pants off.\u00a0 When she means a challenge, typically it\u2019s not about sex.\u00a0 If she is attractive, she knows that if she takes her pants off, 90% of men would jump at the opportunity.\u00a0 Even if she weren\u2019t attractive, that\u2019d still hold true.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0So you have to redefine challenge from her perspective.\u00a0 What she means is a guy who isn\u2019t easy to get, swooning all over her, and trying to kiss her ass.\u00a0 Basically, a guy who has options of different women, so she feels like she got the prize by getting such a man who has so many options.<\/p>\n<p>.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0<strong> B.\u00a0 Being a Challenge is Not Something You Fake, It\u2019s Something You Are.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0This analogy will make it crystal clear for ya:\u00a0 In the world of NBA Basketball, Lebron James is going to be a free agent this coming summer. [In case you have no idea about sports, a \u201cFree Agent\u201d indicates that a player can sign a contract with any team he wishes.]\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Considering his talent and age, he is the hottest commodity in all of basketball.\u00a0 Every basketball team will want him to play for them.\u00a0 He can only play for 1 team!\u00a0 Which team will land him?\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0Therefore getting Lebron James to play for your team is a challenge.\u00a0 Why? Because he has lots of options.\u00a0\u00a0 He is not desperate or needy.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0And by the way, \u201cAwww, you look so adorable\u201d is not really direct game. It\u2019s more like someone trying to come across as slick and smooth after reading (crappy) advice on the Internet.\u00a0 Direct game has to be sincere and unless you\u2019re saying that line from a place of some sincerity, it\u2019s more \u201cGamey\u201d and she\u2019ll know it.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>Here is a 9-series of articles I wrote explaining Direct-Game:\u00a0 <a href=\"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/2009\/05\/07\/definitive-analysis-of-approaching-women-directly\/\">http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/2009\/05\/07\/definitive-analysis-of-approaching-women-directly\/<\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0Lastly, here is what it comes down to pay very careful attention to what I am about to say:\u00a0 There are two schools of thought on how to become more attractive to women:<\/p>\n<p>1.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Learn the correct sequence of tactics and social manipulations<\/p>\n<p>2.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Actually become a more attractive person.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0I subscribe to the latter school, and consequently, what I teach indicates that.\u00a0 You can either learn proper manipulations and sometimes those will even work in the short term, but you\u2019ll be exposed in the long term.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<span style=\"color: #3366ff;\">Or you can choose to become someone who has a high self-image, is interesting, engaging, and socially fun to talk with.\u00a0<\/span> If you are the latter, then by default, you are a bit of a challenge because you have options and women know that.\u00a0 Again, we are back to that sports analogy.\u00a0 The super-star free agent athlete is not desperate because he has option.\u00a0 If you have options, you\u2019re not desperate either, and your demeanor indicates that.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0So will a girl think you\u2019re a challenge?<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0If she thinks you are a guy who is in demand by other women, you\u2019re naturally a challenge.\u00a0 And girls can sense intuitively if you\u2019re a guy who has options.\u00a0 Sometimes the mere fact that you\u2019re able to flirt with them, smile, and be at complete ease around them without a smidgeon of nervousness communicates to\u00a0women that you\u2019re someone who can get it.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0<span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">How will show know you\u2019re a prize? Because you carry yourself like a motherf**kin\u2019 prize!<\/span>\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0 Really, that\u2019s the answer. I just went the long way in explaining it.<\/p>\n<p>Take care<\/p>\n<p>Cameron<\/p>\n<p>PS.\u00a0 The articles on this blog will have a profound impact on your dating life.\u00a0 Please realize that they are supplementary material to what I discuss in my expanded work.\u00a0 Get a copy of my Ebook here: <a href=\"http:\/\/www.attractwomenanywhere.com\/ebook.shtml\" target=\"_blank\">Building Attraction with Women<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>\u00a0 How to be a Challenge to Women . 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