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\u00a0I want to help you guys understand and grasp a monumentally important key in interacting with women:\u00a0 Leading the Way Sexually!<\/p>\n
\u00a0 \u00a0There are gigantic volumes of discussion on \u201cDirect vs. Indirect,\u201d\u00a0 which one works better, what the advantages are, and what you should choose.\u00a0 Last weekend, I had a lengthy discussion with Josh [Swinggcat] regarding this dynamic.\u00a0 Occasionally, he sticks his head in my blog and reads a few posts and our discussions usually become highly philosophical.\u00a0 He is one of the very few \u201cDating Gurus\u201d who understands social psychology on a very high level.<\/p>\n
\u00a0He says to me, \u201cI\u2019ve seen you do direct openers in nightclubs\/bars, but more than anything, I\u2019ve seen you turn the interaction sexual quickly.\u00a0 What would you call that?\u00a0 Directly sexual? \u00a0It\u2019s not necessarily direct right off the bat, but then, it can be explicit in sexuality.\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n \u00a0He has a good point, and talking with Josh [Swinggcat] is always productive because it gives me a\u00a0 3rd<\/sup> person perspective of some of the things I do personally.\u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0Direct openers are great in the sense that they lay a platform to receive some sort of an agreement immediately.\u00a0 She is either interested or not, and you\u2019ll know within 15 seconds by explicitly throwing out there.<\/p>\n \u00a0Ever seen the film Ocean\u2019s 11<\/span><\/em>? \u00a0 In the beginning, Danny Ocean [George Clooney] has a quick meeting with Matt Damon\u2019s character.\u00a0 He presents an airline ticket to Las Vegas and tells Matt\u2019s character, \u201cGot a job for you in Vegas.\u00a0 You\u2019re either in, or you\u2019re out!\u00a0 Right Now!<\/em>\u201d\u00a0 In some effect, that resembles the dynamics of Direct Openers.\u00a0 You\u2019re either in or you\u2019re out, but keep in mind:\u00a0 We\u2019re still talking about Openers.\u00a0 You still have to be interesting and flirtatious after the fact.<\/p>\n \u00a0Openers are a like boat designed to get you across the river on a journey where you\u2019re never going back.\u00a0 Once you get across that river, you discard the boat.\u00a0 You don\u2019t carry it on your back.\u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0Now days, the majority of openers that I do are situational.\u00a0 I just start talking to a girl!\u00a0 There is a level of assumed rapport there, and I simply start making comments.<\/p>\n \u00a0However, as we\u2019re chatting during the interaction and the chemistry is right, things can become sexual quickly.\u00a0 Note: This is in the context of Bars and such.\u00a0 It\u2019s an important distinction that I\u2019ll get to later.\u00a0 (And I don\u2019t much go to these place anymore.)<\/p>\n \u00a0I\u2019ll give you concrete examples of real life personal experience to illustrate the point:<\/p>\n \u00a0I am talking to a girl at some bar.\u00a0 We\u2019ve been chatting for about 10 min, and we\u2019re getting along well. There is good physical chemistry and banter there.\u00a0 She tells me that she\u2019s been working out in the gym.<\/p>\n She \u00a0<\/p>\n Me: \u00a0<\/p>\n She flexes and she has a little bit of muscle.\u00a0<\/p>\n She:\u00a0 \u00a0<\/p>\n Me:\u00a0 \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0At this point, she turns around and sticks her butt out.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 (Or I\u2019ve had situations where I\u2019ve been an gentleman and assisted her by holding her hand, motioning she ought to spin around.\u00a0 Sort of like a ballroom dance move.)<\/p>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n She: \u00a0<\/p>\n Me: \u00a0<\/p>\n At this point, depending on the sexual vibe, I may even give her a good smack on the ass.\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0This is what I call being Direct by Sexually Leading the Interaction.\u00a0\u00a0 At this point, an intense sexual bond has been established, and we\u2019re both thinking dirty filthy thoughts whether we like it or not.\u00a0\u00a0 Josh tells me, \u201cYou realize you threw a lot of compliance tests out there?\u00a0 You had show you her bicep, flex it, then turn around show you her ass, and let you smack it.\u00a0 That\u2019s a hell of a compliance ladder.\u201d<\/p>\n \u00a0And quite frankly, it didn\u2019t occur to me.\u00a0 I don\u2019t think of it that way.\u00a0 I\u2019m having fun flirting.\u00a0 Whether it\u2019s a compliance test or not, I really don\u2019t give a shit.\u00a0 I want to have fun and establish a sexual vibe given the context of the situation.\u00a0 (We\u2019re both in a bar, both drinking, both attracted to each other, and both enjoying the other\u2019s banters.)<\/p>\n \u00a0 I emphasize the latter because I once had a workshop client that was about to spank a girl in a Barnes & Noble bookstore.\u00a0 He had read on the Internet that women like to be spanked and he was cocking his hand back to spank her in between the bookshelves\u2026…….. Next thing was a scene out of a movie.\u00a0 It involved me trying to intercept him in slow motion, yelling \u201cNooooooooooooo\u201d\u00a0 (also in slow motion), as he was about to whack some unsuspecting girl on the ass in the middle of a bookstore because she didn\u2019t read enough books or something lame along those lines.<\/p>\n \u00a0Back to the Example I just gave with the girl flexing her biceps:<\/p>\n \u00a0 These are little examples of leading the interaction sexually.\u00a0 See, at this point, it does not matter HOW YOU OPENED the conversation, it only matters how you charge forward.<\/strong>\u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0A good example of this dynamic is depicted in the show \u201cCalifornication.\u201d\u00a0\u00a0 I am a bit behind as I only started watching it this past season (in it\u2019s 4th<\/sup> season).\u00a0 I did so because on a date, a girl compared me to \u201cHank Moody\u201d and I wasn\u2019t sure if that were a compliment or an insult.\u00a0\u00a0 Hank Moody is the character played by David Duchovny in Californication.\u00a0 All you need to watch are a few episodes to understand the vibe that he is putting forward.\u00a0 Granted, the show is very well written, the dude is good-looking, and he speaks eloquently through his sexual innuendos which sometimes resemble his internal soliloquies.\u00a0 The Hank Moody character can be over the top and his model of behavior may not be one you want to emulate.\u00a0 However, you still can learn how to project that sexual energy and Directly applying sexual leading on a date.<\/p>\n \u00a0You may say to me, \u201cBut Cameron, I don\u2019t want that kind of a girl!\u00a0 I am looking for a girlfriend, and I don\u2019t want the type of girl who let\u2019s some random guy she met 10 minutes ago smack her on the ass in a bar, even if it\u2019s you Cameron!\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n \u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0OK,\u00a0fair point.\u00a0 . So then, what gives?\u00a0 Here is the important note to take away that\u2019s going to help you for the rest of your dating life (and you\u2019re getting it for free on my Blog):\u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0At some point, somewhere, sometime, you must\u00a0LEAD the Interaction Sexually.<\/strong>\u00a0<\/span> Let\u2019s use the same example from above:\u00a0 It may be on the first date, second date, or third date. \u00a0It may be in the privacy of your own home with no one else around.\u00a0 At some point, you have to establish a sexual chemistry even if you\u2019re out in the market looking for a wife..<\/p>\n \u00a0It doesn\u2019t have to be so blatant as a smack on the butt, but you have to create a little bit of sexual tension in a non-sleazy way.\u00a0 (Groping someone randomly too quickly would fall under the sleazy way.)\u00a0 \u00a0It may not be with some girl you met 10 minutes ago in a bar, but then it may be with someone you\u2019re on a date with.\u00a0<\/p>\n \u00a0Keep your eye on the ball, as they say in sports.\u00a0 Keep your focus on leading the interaction sexually, because rarely will women (specially in their 20s) do it for you.\u00a0 It starts with a decision, and that is the decision to establish sexual chemistry.\u00a0 Next challenge is learning when and where to do it.\u00a0 That comes with experience and gaining social intelligence (calibration.)<\/p>\n Cameron<\/p>\n \u00a0PS.\u00a0 The articles on this blog will have a profound impact on your dating life.\u00a0 Please realize that they are supplementary and supporting material to what I discuss in my expanded work.\u00a0 Get a copy of my\u00a0Audio Course \u00a0here: \u00a0Building Attraction with Women<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" \u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0 Leading The Sexual Chemistry with women .\u00a0 . \u00a0I want to help you guys understand and grasp a monumentally important key in interacting with women:\u00a0 Leading the Way…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[193,10],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1679","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-general-dating-advice","category-in-field-advice"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1679","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1679"}],"version-history":[{"count":8,"href":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1679\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1685,"href":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1679\/revisions\/1685"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1679"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1679"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1679"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}
\n(Pointing to her biceps)
\nYep, I\u2019ve been lifting. \u00a0I am working on the guns!\u00a0\u00a0<\/p>\n
\nNice.\u00a0 Let me see.\u00a0 Flex for me.<\/p>\n
\nSee, I told you.<\/p>\n
\nYou\u2019ve got nice guns, but I gotta be honest.\u00a0 I\u00a0can appreciate
\n\u00a0the guns, but what I really like is a\u00a0
\nis a\u00a0nice round butt. OK, I admit it, I am an ass-man.<\/p>\n
\nSee, I got a nice booty.<\/p>\n
\nYes, you do!\u00a0 I like a nice butt that could handle a good smack without crying and yelping.<\/p>\n