{"id":2037,"date":"2010-04-01T13:01:28","date_gmt":"2010-04-01T20:01:28","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/?p=2037"},"modified":"2010-05-31T09:32:35","modified_gmt":"2010-05-31T16:32:35","slug":"letter-from-a-blog-reader","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/2010\/04\/01\/letter-from-a-blog-reader\/","title":{"rendered":"You Just May be a Candidate for a Seduction Cult! (Letter from a Blog Reader)"},"content":{"rendered":"

You Just May be a Candidate for a Seduction Community Cult!<\/span><\/h2>\n

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\u00a0A blog reader sent me an email recently which was insightful.\u00a0 He and I have had a few email exchanges over the last few months, and I am glad he finally was able to put all of the over-analyzing of tactics behind him. He sent me the following email:<\/p>\n

Cameron,
\nThanks for all your help man.<\/p>\n

I had a discussion with a friend of mine from Britain. He fucking hates the PUAs and mostly all guys who sell this kind of stuff. You’re one of the few guys who’s real in this whole thing…<\/p>\n

Stephen Nash also is kinda ok.\u00a0 Barry sometimes makes real disgusting\/weird jokes. I’m doing a treatment now from the psychiatrist for some issues of mine but … no more community stuff. Definetely through with it. I’ll go with Zan’s openness and discretion + the stuff from your blog + being fucking myself + GYM, and living my passions. No more BEE ASS.
\nIf I ever become a guy that has it all together .. you’ve contributed to that enough. :)<\/p>\n

Thanks man.
\nLeon<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

Hey Leon. \u00a0It’s not a matter of “IF” you become a guy who has it together. It’s a matter of when, and that’ll happen when your purpose and your sense of who you are [identity] is solidified.\u00a0\u00a0 Basically, it’s a matter of knowing where you want to go, and having a plan on how to get there. That sounds simple, but along the way, sometimes, we become distracted.<\/p>\n

As for the dating arena, just focus on the basics.\u00a0 Make progress checks of where you are.\u00a0 In the recent article I posted regarding the 3 areas of dating advice:<\/p>\n

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  1. Social Skills.<\/strong><\/li>\n
  2. Social Intelligence.<\/strong><\/li>\n
  3. Social Confidence.<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n

    (You can read that article here: 3 Areas of Dating Advice \u00a0Benefit<\/a>)<\/p>\n

    Here is the issue for anyone who is in the same boat as Leon: \u00a0 \u00a0Too much advice from too many different sources creates confusion, and in case of Leon, it led to this “The World is Against me” mindset.\u00a0 A mindset, where he is trying to figure out how to constantly one-up people, appear cooler than they are, and have a stronger frame.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 It’s not a healthy way to go about your day. \u00a0As far as dating advice is concerned: There is an over abundance of it to the point where it creates mass confusion and paralysis.<\/p>\n

    I’ve remained outspoken about whom I recommend.\u00a0\u00a0I’d highly recommend\u00a0you\u00a0take a look at\u00a0my stuff on developing your attributes and foundational skills.\u00a0 Social intelligence, conversational skills,<\/strong> story-telling! <\/strong>Guess what?\u00a0\u00a0Being socially well-adjusted is going to always benefit you for LIFE.\u00a0 (Not just in dating, but at work and social circles.)<\/p>\n

    I also highly recommend Sinn’s material from a micro-perpsective of trying to figure out your sticking point.\u00a0 Stephen Nash has good material on how to get a girlfriend, build social circles, and a social life.\u00a0 Zan has some really good stuff on overall macro-perspective on the process, but too much Zan will have you\u00a0checking out of\u00a0reality and landing you in fantasyland. \u00a0Steve P. does great individual hypnotherapy in helping guys (and women) get over their issues.<\/p>\n

    You may\u00a0personally like or dislike any of the individuals above, but their material is good and helpful.\u00a0 It also provides an overall picture.<\/p>\n

    OK, what if RIGHT NOW, you’re someone who has studied all of the above material and you’ve made no progress?\u00a0 My first guess is that you’ve just read material as though it were a textbook in school.\u00a0 You haven’t implemented one iota.\u00a0 It’s as if you’ve read 7 books on the Martial Arts and still can’t throw one punch, because you haven’t practiced it.<\/p>\n

    What if you have some practice, made some gains, but still are overcome by massive anxiety, and feelings of discomfort?\u00a0 Then, in my not-so-humble opinion, you have other issues besides “Game” that you probably should get worked on.\u00a0 Get yourself fixed, then come for dating advice.<\/p>\n

    Dating Advice from proper sources WORKS!\u00a0 Far too many people have benefited from it, and so can you.\u00a0 However, dating advice is just that: Dating Advice.\u00a0 It’s not therapy.\u00a0 Similarly therapy is not dating advice.\u00a0 Keep each element in perspective.\u00a0 When you start mixing these things is when you open yourself to hucksters and charlatans.<\/p>\n

    In this case, you’re the person most susceptible to quick-fixes that seem magical and sometimes are even\u00a0cult like.\u00a0 These gimmicks \u00a0include, but are not limited to: Spiritual-woo woo-forms of seduction, infatuation with\u00a0Eckhart Tolle, utter infatuation with Tony Robbins, quick fix advice that says all you need to know to do is tell girls you want to fuck them, intrigue with NLP and trying to pattern people so they bend to your will, and other stuff that makes you weird, creepy, and will leave you deserted.\u00a0 (Not to metion a plethora of marketers who are just blatant charlatans.)<\/p>\n

    Let me ask you this: If you broke your fibula (Shin bone) in the lower part of your leg…. I\u00a0 mean a bad break where the f*cking bone is sticking out through your skin, you get the idea…\u00a0 Would your choice be to\u00a0go to a top notch surgeon from Harvard Medical School?\u00a0\u00a0 Or would you go to Eckhart Tolle, or to a car mechanic?<\/p>\n

    You have about as much business going to a dating-coach if you\u00a0suffer from massive anxieties, paranoid thoughts, depression and such as you do going to a car mechanic for your broken leg.\u00a0 Whatever your mode of therapy, fix the depression and such, then apply the dating-advice.<\/p>\n

    Anyhow, that’s just one person’s opinion.\u00a0\u00a0 [Oh, I can still see\u00a0the dismay of\u00a0my favorite English teacher in high school\u00a0upon the words “In my Opinion.”\u00a0 He’d yell, “Of course, YOUR opinion!\u00a0\u00a0It’s your essay!\u00a0 Whose opinion\u00a0would it be<\/em>?”]\u00a0 \u00a0 Well, little does he know, I am able to channel wise beings from other galaxies who can\u00a0share with \u00a0me such secrets.\u00a0 OK, enough jokes.\u00a0 Seriously, it’s my opinion.\u00a0 Take it or leave it.\u00a0 Get your shit fixed regardless. <\/span><\/p>\n

    If legit dating advice isn’t helping you make progress in your dating life, then you’re either not applying what you’ve learned, or you have deeper rooted issues. You’ll improve in general when you get the proper help, and the legit dating advice will even make more of an impact when you can apply it from a more secure place.<\/p>\n

    Cameron<\/p>\n

    Improve on the 3 areas mentioned in this article here: 16 CD Audio Course\u00a0– Building Attraction with Women<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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