{"id":2062,"date":"2010-04-16T10:58:56","date_gmt":"2010-04-16T17:58:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/?p=2062"},"modified":"2010-05-31T09:27:48","modified_gmt":"2010-05-31T16:27:48","slug":"camerons-ladder-of-communication","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/2010\/04\/16\/camerons-ladder-of-communication\/","title":{"rendered":"Cameron&#8217;s Ladder of Communication"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #ff0000;\">Cameron&#8217;s Ladder of Communication<\/span><\/h2>\n<p>.<\/p>\n<p>OK, this one is from the vault.\u00a0 Originally came up with this back in 2007<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0\u00a0In the last article, I talked about the pros and cons of texting.\u00a0 The cartoon in the post is frighteningly indicative of the dynamics and games that go into interaction.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0 You can read the article here: <a href=\"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/2010\/04\/04\/the-pros-cons-of-texting\/\" target=\"_blank\">Pros &amp; Cons of Texting.<\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0Then there are things that are annoying.\u00a0 Everyone has pet peeves, and for me, the texting in reply to a phone call is one of them.\u00a0 As I discovered, apparently, there are a lot of dudes who are annoyed by this behavior.\u00a0 Cold-approach lends itself more to this, and some people just take laziness to new heights.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0Scenario: You call someone, leave a voicemail, and you get a text back saying:<\/p>\n<p><em>\u201cI saw you called.\u00a0 I am busy shopping for pee-wee Herman doll replicas.\u00a0 What\u2019s up?\u201d<\/em><\/p>\n<p>Your inclination is to want to reply, \u201c I\u2019ll take Information I didn\u2019t need to know for $500 Alex.\u201d\u00a0\u00a0 [Actually, I may have to try this, come to think of it.\u00a0 For the international audience, this is a reference to long running American game show called Jeopardy.]<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0 And let\u2019s be honest here: It\u2019s not just girls who do this.\u00a0 Some men do it as well, but with dudes, things are simpler because there is no dating involved.\u00a0 To be fair, there are situations where a friend will text you because he is in a business meeting, out of the country, whatever.\u00a0 I am not talking about that or any sort of rational logistical reasons.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>So was born <strong><em>The Cameron Ladder of Communication.<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n<p>\u00a0Point of this article is to sort of show you how you can circumvent certain circumstances by establishing certain rules.\u00a0 Adding a touch of humor enables you to make easier conversational banter and present the idea more casually.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>How does it work?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>\u00a0At some point during the conversation, the topic of \u201cDislikes\u201d comes up.\u00a0 (well, I may bring it up myself!)\u00a0\u00a0 So, obviously she mention s things she dislikes\u2026.\u00a0\u00a0 Then it\u2019s my turn explain the ladder of communication.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0I have this thing called \u201cCameron\u2019s ladder of communication\u2026. It\u2019s sort of patent pending regarding the proper order of answering messages.<\/p>\n<p>Cameron&#8217;s ladder of communication:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Phone Call,<\/li>\n<li>Text,<\/li>\n<li>Myspace,\u00a0 [I said it&#8217;s from 2007.]<\/li>\n<li>Regular Email.<\/li>\n<li>Telegraph<\/li>\n<li>Morse code.<\/li>\n<li>Smoke signals<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0Here is the thing.\u00a0 It\u2019s cool to be progressive, but it aint\u2019 cool to go backwards.\u00a0\u00a0 Meaning if someone were to text you and you reply with a phone call, that\u2019s fine. But then, if you received a text and respond back with Morse code, smoke signals or a pigeon for that matter, that\u2019s a major violation of the ladder of communication.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0\u00a0The idea, again, is to use a little bit of humor to get your point across.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0This texting thing may not be your particular pet peeve.\u00a0 You may have others.\u00a0 Point is use this example, and <strong>learn how you can use a bit of humor to establish ground rules to circumvent situations that are undesirable.<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>\u00a0 Why\/How it may benefit\u00a0YOU in your dating life:<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>While there are beneficial aspects to texting, it can also create a sort of stalemate at times where you\u2019re not making progress.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0In my experience, and I think it\u2019s common sense, it\u2019s far easier to get a girl to meet you for a FIRST date if you can talk to her for 15 to 20 minutes than texting back and forth incessantly.\u00a0 (After the first date, dynamics change obviously.)\u00a0 \u00a0After a 15 minute conversation where you\u2019re having banter and sharing witty repartee, you\u2019re going to find it quite a natural transition to meet up in person for more fun.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0If you\u2019re constantly texting, sometimes you go down this weird path of exchanging electronic messages where you\u2019re locked into this weird impersonal relationship.\u00a0 At that point, it\u2019s more difficult to get the person to meet you in person, or even to get a phone called established.\u00a0 You want to avoid trying to organize that initial get-together\u00a0through\u00a0a plethora of texts going back and forth.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0Now, if you have trouble maintaining decent conversation on the phone, then maybe a 20 minute convo isn\u2019t for you.\u00a0 (You better be able to sustain some form of conversation on the actual date, if she does come to meet you.)<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0Nevertheless, if you can understand this intricacies what I explained in the \u201cLadder of Communication,\u201d you can use the formula to cover bases for your personal dislikes.\u00a0 Think of it as a Pre-Emptive Strike! (And you thought nothing possibly good could have come from the Bush Admin!)\u00a0 Hey, we became familiar with the phrase, preemptive \u00a0Strike!\u00a0 Use it wisely.<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0As a matter of fact, you can use this Pre-Emptive strike to preempt various issues that may come up! For example, you may have be a college student who lives at home, OR you may be a single parent.\u00a0 The tendency of most people is to want to hide things and live in secrecy.\u00a0 The aforementioned two examples are nothing to embarrassed about, although I can certainly understand the apprehensiveness.\u00a0 Bring it up first!\u00a0 Do the Preemptive strike, get it out of the way, establish a baseline.\u00a0<\/p>\n<p>\u00a0Stay tuned for the next article where I&#8217;ll take this one step further in establishing code of conduct.<\/p>\n<p>Enjoy<\/p>\n<p>Cameron<\/p>\n<p>Get a copy of the <a href=\"http:\/\/www.attractwomenanywhere.com\/ebook.shtml\" target=\"_blank\">Building Attraction Secrets<\/a> Ebook<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Cameron&#8217;s Ladder of Communication . 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