{"id":2302,"date":"2010-06-27T06:49:37","date_gmt":"2010-06-27T13:49:37","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/?p=2302"},"modified":"2010-06-27T10:23:53","modified_gmt":"2010-06-27T17:23:53","slug":"facebook-the-wussies-way-out","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/2010\/06\/27\/facebook-the-wussies-way-out\/","title":{"rendered":"Facebook: The Wussie’s Way Out"},"content":{"rendered":"

Dating Women on Facebook, A guide<\/span><\/h2>\n

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“I got her facebook info!”<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

My friend says to me after an interaction.<\/p>\n

– How about a phone number? (I ask)<\/p>\n

Nah. just facebook for now.<\/p>\n

Why did he do that?\u00a0 Chances are you’ve done it too.\u00a0 Why?\u00a0 Why did you ask for her facebook?\u00a0 Be honest now.\u00a0\u00a0 You wanted to get together with her.\u00a0 For better or worse, a date is the idea\u00a0 you had in mind.<\/p>\n

\u201cFacebooking A girl<\/em>\u201d\u00a0 for the purposes of dating her is a really piss poor strategy.\u00a0 By the way, let\u2019s not kid ourselves: You\u2019re not facebooking a girl you met at random \u201cto keep in touch.\u201d That\u2019s the equivalent of buying a porno magazine to read the articles back in the day.\u00a0 (As a side note: Does anyone buy porno mags anymore?)\u00a0\u00a0 Anyhow, you\u2019re doing the Facebook thing to get a date out of it.<\/p>\n

Well, if that\u2019s your goal, then step up the plate.\u00a0 I know Baseball analogies don\u2019t make sense to the vast International audience.\u00a0 So, point being, be a man!\u00a0 Show some balls.\u00a0 Get the number.<\/p>\n

If you don\u2019t think you have enough of a solid interaction to get the number, then you don\u2019t have much.\u00a0 So you got the facebook, and now you want to date her.<\/p>\n

How are you going to do that now? At this point, you’ll have to exchange emails on facebook, get her on the phone, then ask her to meet you out and about somewhere. Chances are getting her to come meet you on a date without ever having a conversation are going to be a lot more slim<\/p>\n

In essence, you’re working backwards. By asking for her facebook, you went a step backwards, you still have to get back to square one and get the number.<\/p>\n

The question is why do guys do this? Before you become defensive, you should know that most guys have done this.\u00a0 Yes, I’ve done it too.<\/p>\n

Truth of the matter is that sometimes you don’t feel like there is enough there in the interaction to warrant asking for a number.\u00a0 You can tell when things are going well, and when things are just lukewarm.\u00a0\u00a0 In such times, it’s easy to ask for facebook, but feels tough to ask for a number.<\/p>\n

Then again, for some guys, it’s always tough to ask for a number.<\/p>\n

So facebook becomes the wussy way out.\u00a0 It feels like a victory of sorts, because you got something.\u00a0 but as I said, you haven’t got jack shit, especially if you log on to see that she has 359 friend.<\/p>\n

If you actually know what you’re doing and didn’t ask fro the number, it’s because you felt that you didn’t have enough rapport or a fluid-vibe in the short interaction to ask for the number.<\/p>\n

In that case, you still don’t have much.\u00a0 That interaction is still too raw and hasn’t matured enough to enable you to move forward properly.\u00a0 So you ask for the facebook hoping that something more could happen in the future.<\/p>\n

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Keep this in perspective: What I am discussing here is asking for a facebook only because you wussed out from asking for a number.\u00a0\u00a0 This is not to be confused with a scenario where you exchanged numbers and then did facebook on top of that.\u00a0 When girls like you, they’ll give all sorts of contact info, phone, email, driver license,<\/p>\n

The idea of facebooking someone in order to get a date out of it is playing low percentages.\u00a0 Can it be done?\u00a0 Yes.\u00a0 I have done it.\u00a0 I have even worked it backwards where through email, I asked for the number and then called.<\/p>\n

Was it more work than it should have been? Yep.<\/p>\n

I got buddies who do the “facebooking” often.\u00a0 Do you know how many of those girls they end up going out with? Less than 5%, I’d say.\u00a0 (That just sounds better than zero, which is what the case it most often.)<\/p>\n

Of course there are dudes who will swear to you they’re making this work left and right, but those are also dudes who date a lot of phantom women. You’ll never see them with the women\u00a0 they’re supposedly meeting off of facebook, but oh, how they will brag about it to no end.<\/p>\n

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Dating & Facebook can be intrusive<\/p>\n

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Then there is the part of the equation where it’s intrusive.\u00a0 If you work in an office environment, I don’t think it’s a good idea to add coworkers to your facebook account.\u00a0 the negatives far outweigh the positives.<\/p>\n

Furthermore, it’s simply intrusive.<\/p>\n

Suppose you add someone to your facebook whom you just went on a first-date with.\u00a0 Now, that can create havoc.\u00a0 She’ll see other girls who flirt or interact with you on there.\u00a0 Those girls could include ex-girlfriend from a while back, female friends, (girls you added because you were interested in them, but wussed out), not to mention girls who are, or have been friends-with-benefits<\/em> at some point.<\/p>\n

You add all of that up and it’s a recipe for disaster.<\/p>\n

If\u00a0 you\u2019ve just met a girl at random, you\u2019re better off asking for a number, and NOT adding her to Facebook.\u00a0 Not until you\u2019ve gone on several dates and feel like you get along on some level.<\/p>\n

Please keep in mind these guidelines are meant for normal guys who want pointers for dating girls.\u00a0 My advice is not geared towards aspiring \u201cPick Up Artists\u201d or \u201cPUAs.\u201d\u00a0 PUAs don\u2019t have that many friends nor do they have any women in their social circles, so the problem really solves itself.<\/p>\n

Back to the normal guy.\u00a0 Don\u2019t be a pussy.\u00a0 Take the interaction further.\u00a0 Don\u2019t just settle for playing it safe and asking for a facebook.<\/p>\n

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How To Use Facebook for Dating <\/span><\/h2>\n

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Is facebooking completely useless?\u00a0 No.<\/p>\n

There are ways you can use it to your advantage. The following are some scenarios where you can use this which usually depend on one’s lifestyle or job:<\/p>\n

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  • Club promoter types, (Including promoters. DJs. hosts, event planners)<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    This is using facebook as part of the label that goes along with it: Social Media. It\u2019s a way to conjure up a mass amount of people to make your event successful.\u00a0 Along those lines, you could invite girls you\u2019d like to get to know better as wel.<\/p>\n

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    • Professional Event hosting.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

      Maybe you’re not the average coke-snorting club promoter but have a prfoessional association.\u00a0 Maybe you host art gallery openings, or someone who is able to use social gatherings to your advanage to invite women to your environment\u00a0 you could use this to your advantage.<\/p>\n

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      • Going into Events:<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

        Say you\u2019re the type of dude who attends a lot of social events.\u00a0 You have the sort of lifestyle where (for social or work reasons), you\u2019re invited to various events.\u00a0 In this context, you could use Facebook to invite the girl(s) you\u2019ve met to the event, or perhaps ask her to go with you.<\/p>\n

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        • You\u2019re the Event host (non professional capacity):<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

          An even better situation is if you\u2019re the type who likes having social get-togethers or parties in your house.\u00a0 Now it\u2019s just common sense. \u201cHey, I\u2019m having a house party on Saturday night.\u00a0 It\u2019d be great if you could make it, and feel free to come with friends…<\/em>\u201d\u00a0\u00a0 (Or something along those lines.)<\/p>\n

          What you\u2019re trying to do is open that release-valve on the steam pipe to relieve the pressure.\u00a0 Going to a party or an event doesn\u2019t feel awkward for her, and if she is inclined, she may bring a girlfriend or two.\u00a0 Most girls will not bring guys to this sort of situation, as they know better.<\/p>\n

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          • Long Distance Situation<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

            Say you live in NY and a girl you just met lives a 4-hour drive north of you in Boston.\u00a0 You had a nice chat, liked each other, and agreed you were able to coexist despite the Yankee\/Red Sox conflict.\u00a0 On the same note, this is not really a dating situation.\u00a0 You\u2019re probably not meeting someone for a date who lives four-hour away. You Facebook each other, and the next time you\u2019re in Boston or she is in NYC, maybe you\u2019ll hang and have fun.\u00a0 It\u2019s not that serious.\u00a0 This is a much more casual approach, and has more of a friendship vibe to it.\u00a0 (Which is totally cool.)<\/p>\n

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            • \u201cCool-chick scenario.\u201d<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

              This one is sort of a far out concept for some guys.\u00a0 It\u2019s out there in the realm of dating advice, but let\u2019s say you actually liked her as a person and wanted to keep in touch.\u00a0 For a variety of possible reasons, you\u2019re not able to call often and chit-chat like high school girls.\u00a0 In this scenario, Facebook serves as what it\u2019s meant to be, \u201cA Social Network.\u201d<\/p>\n

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              Lifestyle, job, and social proof<\/em> can serve as beneficial tools.\u00a0 Most guys don’t have this scenario.\u00a0 They facebook girls and end up collecting random individuals.<\/p>\n

              If the above situations do not apply to you, then you’re better off asking for a phone number and moving on.\u00a0 If she is not going to give you a number, she is not going to want to date you from facebook either in most cases. (Unless you want to grind this out.)<\/p>\n

              Even more silly is trying to date girls off twitter.\u00a0 Why waste so much time twitting back and forth with nitwits?\u00a0 Not to mention that if she is a hardcore twitter, she ain’t worth dating in the first place.\u00a0 (excluding work\/professional reasons for twitting.)<\/p>\n

              Of course, to some of you this may seem like common sense.\u00a0 Other will want to resist the notion and think it’s a great idea to befriend girls on facebook after a 10 minute interaction.<\/p>\n

              The latter group will hold on to that notion until they overhear a conversation between women that I have heard several times now: What’s wrong with men these days?\u00a0 Don’t they have the balls to ask you out anymore?\u00a0 They ask you to be a facebook friend….<\/p>\n

              When you hear that one, it may really sink in.<\/p>\n

              Cameron<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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