{"id":2320,"date":"2010-08-05T00:44:22","date_gmt":"2010-08-05T07:44:22","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/?p=2320"},"modified":"2011-01-13T17:23:29","modified_gmt":"2011-01-14T00:23:29","slug":"toxic-personalities-in-dating-the-complainer","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/2010\/08\/05\/toxic-personalities-in-dating-the-complainer\/","title":{"rendered":"Toxic Personalities in Dating: The Complainer"},"content":{"rendered":"

Toxic Personalities: The Incessant complainer<\/span><\/h2>\n

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You\u2019ve known the type.\u00a0 Whether it was at school, work, or social gathering, you\u2019ve come across them.\u00a0 You know the type, they like to complain about everything.\u00a0 Regardless of when or where your run into them, regardless of how well they\u2019re doing, they\u2019re going to complain.<\/p>\n

It\u2019s a personality trait.\u00a0 This is a key distinction.\u00a0 The constant complainer, in and of by itself, does not constitute a personality archetype.\u00a0 It\u2019s merely a trait of a particular personality type.<\/p>\n

A very intriguing book I was recently reading broke all human personalities to 9 main Archetypes. \u00a0Most likely, I\u2019d deduce, that constant complaining is an unhealthy behavior in one or two of these particular archetypes.<\/p>\n

This is NOT to be mistaken with venting.\u00a0 Wanting to vent or to express frustration over a topic is a normal human tendency.\u00a0 It helps \u201cget shit off people\u2019s chests<\/em>.\u201d\u00a0 Most of us have done it. Got a crappy parking ticket, lost your wallet, whatever\u2026 \u00a0And you just want to vent to get that crap off of your chest.<\/p>\n

The constant complainer is different as he\/she likes to complain about whatever topic is within his or her grasp.\u00a0 If she can think of it, she\u2019ll complain about it.<\/p>\n

Case and Point: An acquaintance of mine, friend of a friend, is one such type.\u00a0 Nice guy, by all accounts and cool to hang out with\u2026. For about 2 hours.\u00a0 After that, you pretty much feel your energy has been sucked out of you.<\/p>\n

What does he have to complain about?\u00a0 Nothing legitimate.\u00a0 Healthy guy with healthy family, he has a successful business, owns property and has his toys (cars, bikes, etc). He us doing well by all accounts. You can better bet he\u2019ll complain about everything under the sun, and then some.\u00a0 It\u2019ll never stop.<\/p>\n

Ironically enough, his wife is very similar to him.\u00a0 So, in some cosmic way, the universe makes sense.\u00a0 The two of them somehow get along.\u00a0 Good for them!<\/p>\n

What\u2019s the point? This personality trait is not limited to any specific gender. For some of these people, it\u2019s just a way to relate to others.\u00a0 Maybe they never learned to relate to other human beings socially outside of complaining.\u00a0 In a way, it\u2019s a method for them to gain rapport.\u00a0 For others, it\u2019s how they draw attention to themselves.<\/p>\n

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OK, enough pseudo-scientific psychological mumbo jumbo!\u00a0 What does that it all mean?<\/p>\n

Simply put: AVOID this type in Dating!\u00a0 That\u2019s sort of the point of this article.<\/p>\n

The incessant complainer is not someone you can happily date, (exception being if you\u2019re one yourself as noted in example above.)<\/p>\n