{"id":2376,"date":"2010-12-28T00:23:10","date_gmt":"2010-12-28T07:23:10","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/?p=2376"},"modified":"2010-12-28T00:24:05","modified_gmt":"2010-12-28T07:24:05","slug":"outside-influences-on-your-dating-life","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/2010\/12\/28\/outside-influences-on-your-dating-life\/","title":{"rendered":"Outside Influences on Your Dating Life"},"content":{"rendered":"

Outside Influences on Your Dating Life<\/span><\/h2>\n

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My last article on this blog was written just over two months ago, and I am long overdue for a blog article.\u00a0 It\u2019s the holiday season and in the spirit of Christmas, I thought I\u2019d chime in something I\u2019ve been thinking about recently: The importance of your outside influences.<\/p>\n

The majority of men who find their way onto dating-advice websites all share a common theme, and this overwhelming theme is often the catalyst that obstructs their path.\u00a0 It hinders or stunts their success levels and sometimes it is compounded further by outside influences.<\/p>\n

That common factor shared by most men is doubt and over-analyzing situations and the outside factors are friends and acquaintances who seem to sometimes suffer from similar ailments.<\/p>\n

When it comes to dating women, I always say,<\/p>\n

\u201cIt\u2019s better to be a delusional optimist than a pessimistic realist.\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

I should preface the above comment with a quick note: There is a baseline set of social skills required to experience favorable interactions with the opposite sex.\u00a0 Heck, that baseline of social skills is essential in life regardless of which gender.\u00a0 Furthermore, certain men as well as women lack effective flirting skills which often retards their chances of effective sexual communication and banter<\/p>\n

Those skills are a must and if you\u2019ve read my Ebook, you already know that I painstakingly cover a lot of such skills in various chapters.<\/p>\n

But then, what if you have some of these decent skills and you\u2019re still having issues?<\/p>\n

Often times, it comes to a lack of belief in oneself and one\u2019s abilities.\u00a0 Doubt creeps in and a person starts visualizing \u201cWhat if\u201d scenarios.\u00a0 From there, it\u2019s a downward spiral.\u00a0 The possibilities may be endless and that person is caught in a whirlwind of negative outcomes he\/she is imagining.<\/p>\n

Attraction and Dating is vastly different than most activities in life.\u00a0 Part of the very mechanism of that attraction is confidence.\u00a0 It also enables you to move forward more efficiently without hesitation. \u00a0Yet, it can be fragile and shaky in some and to make matters worse, you can be derailed by acquaintances who are discouraging.<\/p>\n

Imagine a guy who in the eyes of society was not the best \u201cCatch.\u201d\u00a0 Let\u2019s say he is not physically very unappealing, and he is not the most socially smooth guy around. \u00a0(Not saying he is socially retarded either.\u00a0 Just average)\/<\/p>\n

So this guy decides to approach quite a few physically attractive women.\u00a0 \u00a0He keeps getting shut down.\u00a0 He gets everything from \u201cSorry, not interested\u201d to \u201cI have a boyfriend\u201d and a slew of wrong numbers.\u00a0 10, 20, 30, women later, he still hasn\u2019t made a connection.\u00a0 \u00a0But then at some point, he meets one who is interested and who does like him. \u00a0\u00a0Who knows the exact reason why, but for whatever reason, she digs him.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve seen some weird shit out there, let me tell ya.<\/p>\n

What\u2019s the point?\u00a0 Most guys would never make it past the first 10 women who expressed disinterest. They\u2019d lose hope and confidence.\u00a0 This situation will only be compounded by the naysayers around who at every turn will take turns trying to discourage him.<\/p>\n

These discouragements sometimes can take a greater toll than you realize.\u00a0\u00a0 The point of this post, if you haven\u2019t figured it out by now, is not to advocate being stagnant and never improving.\u00a0 On the contrary, it\u2019s to always improve oneself, but at the same time knowing that a little encouragement goes a long way in empowering you to push forward in the right direction.<\/p>\n

So take a good look at round the people you hang around with most often.\u00a0 Do they encourage you, or are they constantly discouraging you?\u00a0 Do they truly want to see you do better or are they more worried about how they\u2019d look in comparison to you?<\/p>\n

You may have some serious decisions to make as far as whom you spend your time with.<\/p>\n

Cameron<\/p>\n

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