{"id":2445,"date":"2011-01-10T19:37:14","date_gmt":"2011-01-11T02:37:14","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/?p=2445"},"modified":"2011-01-10T19:41:14","modified_gmt":"2011-01-11T02:41:14","slug":"asking-a-woman-out-on-a-date","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/2011\/01\/10\/asking-a-woman-out-on-a-date\/","title":{"rendered":"Asking a Woman Out on A Date!"},"content":{"rendered":"

How Do You Ask A Girl Out On A Date?<\/span><\/h2>\n

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This is the toughest thing for some guys to do sometimes, and to make matters worse, trying to beat around the bush only compounds the issue.<\/p>\n

Typical scenario: Guy reads dating advice online.\u00a0 He wants to be a player or discreet, or whatever. He starts trying all sorts of clever techniques to ask a girl out. The problem essentially is that a lot of guys want to use player lines and styles while they lack any sort of congruency with that vibe.<\/p>\n

Sometimes, the basics work the best.\u00a0 I mean something clich\u00e9 that you see in the movies.\u00a0 So what\u2019s the obstruction?<\/p>\n

Well, everyone wants to be a player. Maybe not every single dude, but a lot of the guys who seek dating advice seek so under the guise of becoming the proverbial Lothario, a Don-Juan, a ladies man, or the modern day Cassanova.\u00a0 Now days, they call it being a \u201cPlayer.\u201d\u00a0 (I\u2019ll get back to the reason why this is later.)<\/p>\n

Sometimes, becoming normal is the most important thing.\u00a0 Then take it up a notch from there.\u00a0 Hence, some of the advice seekers would be so far better off asking a girl on a date.<\/p>\n

Can I take you out sometime?\u00a0 (or would you like to go dinner with me)<\/em><\/p>\n

[PS. And as you know, \u00a0I don’t even endorse dinner dates, but you get the idea.]<\/p>\n

Man, they’re so clich\u00e9, pass\u00e9 , old-school, they\u2019re so\u2026\u2026.. 1950s, like Richie Cunningham from \u201cHappy Days.\u201d<\/p>\n

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Richie Cunningham<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

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Right?\u00a0 Yep, it may be all of that, and it’d probably work better than what a lot of guys seeking dating advice are using right now. Guys find refuge on the Internet to seek advice regarding Dating, but often times, ending up stepping backwards.\u00a0 They try devising clever schemes and roundabout unconventional means to try and ask a girl out.<\/p>\n

They’ll talk about getting a number close, or a “Bridge” or whatever\u00a0 vernacular is the current popular flavor of the day.\u00a0 Surely, the terminology will change, but the concept is the same:\u00a0 They’ll ask a girl out in nonchalant ways \u00a0such as, “We should continue this conversation later.\u00a0 How do we go about doing that?”<\/em><\/p>\n

This is to entice her, or perhaps drop the subtle hint that she should offer the phone number herself.\u00a0 Some guys don’t even do that. They send an invitation to some obscure event without trying to imply the context that it’s a date.\u00a0 Most of the time, it doesn’t work very we for those particular dudes.\u00a0 Most such guys would be just better off trying the “Old-School” way most often.<\/p>\n

But wait, I can almost hear the yelling and screaming through my monitor now:<\/p>\n

\u201cBut that’s what losers do, pundits and hardliners scream and shout. What?\u00a0 Ask a girl out? Go on a traditional date! Ha! That’s what chumps do.”<\/em><\/p>\n

Well, Perhaps, but then I’d give a thumbs up to the chump who is out with a girl he likes on a traditional date, than a guy alone by himself under the illusion that he somehow is better than that chump.<\/p>\n

I have a buddy (not in anyway involved with dating advice) who dates often.\u00a0 His personal favorite thing to do is ask girls out on a dinner date.\u00a0 Personally I highly advise against \u201cDinner Dates\u201d and if you\u2019ve read my Ebook, you are already aware.\u00a0 That discussion is for another day.\u00a0 Girls who are interested follow through, and no, it\u2019s not because they want a free dinner (for the smart asses reading this right now.)\u00a0\u00a0 It should be said that my buddy is not rich or \u00fcber -good looking.\u00a0 However, he does dress well, and comes across as having his shit together.<\/p>\n

So, why am I advocating the old-school method for some men?<\/p>\n

For a variety of reasons:<\/p>\n

A.\u00a0 It makes sense in the girl’s perception of reality.\u00a0 This is a very concept that deserves its own article.\u00a0 However, for the time being, it’s important to understand that \u00a0she has a certain understanding of how things work in the dating realm.<\/p>\n

There are years of conditioning that have lead to where she is now. Let\u2019s observe:<\/p>\n

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Social Conditioning<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

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There were the middle school dances that started when she was 12 or 13 years old.
\nThere were high school events.
\nThere was homecoming.
\nOf course, there was THE PROM!<\/p>\n

A guy asked a girl out and they went to the prom together, and then it just built on from there.\u00a0 Not to mention countless movies that are built around this dynamic.\u00a0 How many teenage romantic comedies can you name just now that are built around a girl or hapless guy trying to score that big prom date for that ever so significant high school event?<\/p>\n

Being asked out on a date in socially conditioned and ingrained in our psyches, at least, with most of us in the Western part of the world.\u00a0 (I am not aware how this works within a tribal society in the Serengeti plains of Africa.\u00a0 Forgive my limitations here.)<\/p>\n

And by the way, \u00a0if you’re a cool suave motherfucker like Mickey Rourke, go ahead and break all conventional rules.\u00a0 Be the cool charming guy from nine and a half weeks.\u00a0 Take her on a whirlwind ride and be the romance hero from a romance novel.\u00a0 Wait, if you were that, you wouldn’t be online seeking dating advice.\u00a0 (Between you and me, let\u2019s be honest here.)<\/p>\n

So you’re not a Mickey Rourke.\u00a0 You want to be Mickey Rourke, but in order to become that guy, you need to have more girls.\u00a0 In order to get girls, you have to start somewhere. So maybe you start the traditional way.<\/p>\n

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Everybody wants to be the Fonz<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

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With more dates, you get more experience. With more experience, you gain more comfort with women, and your confidence grows.\u00a0 When your confidence peaks, well, maybe you will be one cool suave mofo.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 See, it all makes sense. (And that\u2019s why this is the best blog of its kind on the Internet, but I digress.)<\/p>\n

One thing we can surely on agree on is that meeting in secret lairs in subterranean dwellings with other unidentified organisms is not the way to go. So then, back to something conventional: IT makes sense to her<\/strong><\/p>\n

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B.\u00a0 There is no misunderstanding of context.<\/p>\n

Going on a date automatically implies a romantic context.\u00a0 There is no misunderstanding, nothing lost in translation.\u00a0 After that evening, either you’ll want to see each other again, or you won\u2019t.\u00a0 There is no misunderstanding of WHY you two are spending time together.\u00a0 Often times, guys wonder if she knows what his intentions are.\u00a0 Chances are pretty good that shoe does. However, asking her out on a “Date” per se puts some sort of a stamp on it.\u00a0 It’s better than asking for an email address or a facebook.<\/p>\n

Sometimes nothing screams “What A Big Pussy” louder than asking a girl for her Facebook contact info.<\/p>\n

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C.\u00a0 It saves time.\u00a0 Some guys are actually busy as they have careers and a life.<\/p>\n

I\u2019ve come across guys who have their own careers, work, and so forth.\u00a0 I\u2019ve come across all types.\u00a0 I\u2019ve met guys who were married and now are divorced finding themselves back on the single scene.\u00a0 Maybe YOU can relate to this?\u00a0 They get online, receive some decent advice, but then they also find themselves dressing up in outlandish gear trying to make conversation with 23 year old Attention-Deficit Disorder suffering idiots in a night club full of sharks.<\/p>\n

This is probably not the best use of your time, strengths, or resources. It\u2019s best to play to your strengths.<\/p>\n

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Is \u201cAsking A Girl On A Date\u201d an end-all, be-all, solution?\u00a0 Not at all.\u00a0 If you lack skills to make playful banter conversation, or lack skills to flirt and have fun with girls, you\u2019re still going to have to develop those skills.\u00a0 For certain men, it’ll be a terrible idea.\u00a0 If you’re too nervous to even chat with a girl, you may be better off making some casual progress first before you start going the traditional route.\u00a0 There are obviously various styles of dates and methods of asking someone out, and perhaps, I’ll do an article on that some other time.<\/p>\n

For the moment, however, undoubtedly there are men who will come across this blog article and they\u2019ll\u00a0 identify themselves as guys similar to my aforementioned buddy.\u00a0 Well put together, (groomed, clean, well dressed, and looking like you take care of yourself), these particular guys will benefit MORE from just asking a girl to go on a date than trying to use clever secret roundabout techniques to get a girl out. Asking a girl out will be far more efficient and effective than asking for “Facebook” or inviting her to some random party that you may be attending, and so forth.<\/p>\n

But then, what if you want to be a player and come across as smooth?\u00a0\u00a0 That\u2019s fine.\u00a0 That\u2019ll come with experience.\u00a0 You just have to ask yourself one question:<\/p>\n

–\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Are you looking to come across as a \u201cPlayer\u201d because this means you have more women around you, OR, are you just interested in appearing \u201cCool\u201d in front of your buddies, coworkers, and other people in general?<\/p>\n

That, you have to answer for yourself.\u00a0 While you contemplate that, remember sometimes the answer lies in simplicity. \u00a0\u00a0 Sometimes that simplicity is,<\/p>\n

\u201cWould you join me for a drink sometime!\u201d<\/p><\/blockquote>\n

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Get a copy of Building Attraction Ebook<\/a> now.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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