http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/2011\/07\/11\/a-key-to-successful-relationships-in-life\/<\/a><\/p>\nThe above two bullet points are two truisms that one cannot avoid, and nor should any of us want to. I wouldn\u2019t call myself a \u201crelationship expert\u201d by any stretch of the imagination.\u00a0 I spent years teaching men (very successfully I may add) on how to become better at attracting women, and on how to cold-approach complete strangers in bars\/clubs, coffee shops and various locations.<\/p>\n
It is comforting to know that all of that knowledge can be applied to creating a great relationship with a woman of your choice that you\u2019d consider having\/raising children with.<\/p>\n
Core-Values: Let\u2019s discuss the concept: \u00a0In the referenced article, I mention that meaningful relationships (This includes friendships with other people) are not just based on commonalities but on sharing deeply rooted core values.<\/p>\n
My girlfriend is one of the sweetest, kindest and most compassionate people I\u2019ve ever met.\u00a0 She is also very intelligent with a great sense of humor. (And finally, I know your mind is wondering: \u00a0Yes, she is an attractive & fit blonde!)\u00a0 The first part of that description is non-negotiable core-values to me.\u00a0 Kindness, compassion, and someone who is giving are very important values to me.\u00a0 By giving, I don\u2019t mean some pop music egomaniac who donates to charity so that his PR Firm can go hard to work about what a good person he\/she is.\u00a0 That\u2019s pretentiousness and deception.\u00a0 Ugly values to me.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 By “giving”, I mean someone who has a genuine desire to make a difference in their relationships\/community for the better.\u00a0 \u00a0While looking physically attractive is not a core-value, the desire (discipline) to do your part to eat well and exercise are! \u00a0(Taking on the onus of self-responsibility for yourself is a core-value.)<\/p>\n
You have to decide what core-values are important to you in your relationships.<\/p>\n
Here are some examples of Core Values:<\/p>\n
Loyalty, integrity, compassion, kindness, desire to grow, desire to learn, desire to be your best, determination, honesty, open-mindedness, optimism, reliability, helpfulness, fairness, flexibility, family, spirituality, Generosity, and so forth.<\/p>\n
This is very personal and you best know what appeals to you.\u00a0 These are not meant to be children fairy tales that sound good on paper.\u00a0 As individuals, we must know WHY certain values are important to us and perhaps even more importantly: We must possess the same values we seek in others.<\/p>\n
If you\u2019re an honest person, you already know from life experience that hanging around a person who is lying\/conniving and deceitful is disastrous.\u00a0 Similarly, if you\u2019re a lying prick, then you shouldn\u2019t really list honesty as a core-value you seek. \u00a0\u00a0It\u2019s an obvious tongue in cheek example, but you get the point.<\/p>\n
Things aren\u2019t always so obvious though.\u00a0 If you have a strong desire to learn new information and reshape your beliefs based on wisdom gained, you\u2019re probably not going to get along with someone who has certain beliefs who is never ever going to question how he or she came to subscribe to those beliefs in the first place.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s the core-values that determine our compatibility with others in romantic relationship and friendships.\u00a0\u00a0 So let\u2019s say you\u2019re an avid fan of a sports team, could you be friends with someone who is a fanatical follower of the rival sports team?\u00a0\u00a0 Hard to believe, but yes, of course.\u00a0 Hey, you could even be friends with someone who does not like that particular sport at all.<\/p>\n
Sports, hobbies, commonalities bring people together.\u00a0 Core-Values help us create a bond with people we do meet in those various endeavors.<\/p>\n
The topic here is not that complex yet, if we look back at our experiences, we find so many examples of incompatible core-values in our relationships of past years.\u00a0 It could have been in high school, college, random friends, colleagues, people we dated, etc\u2026\u00a0\u00a0 Most of us have probably known a person or two whom we helped quite a bit, and when we needed that person for something (even something simple), that particular person seemed to have no desire to extend a hand or help in anyway.\u00a0 It\u2019s a basic example but a common and applicable one. \u00a0\u00a0It was then that ugliness of mismatched values revealed itself.<\/p>\n
If you\u2019re like me, you did a dumb thing and repeated that mistake again with another person thinking it\u2019d be different.\u00a0 It wasn\u2019t.\u00a0 So we learn the hard way and that\u2019s part of life.<\/p>\n
A little awareness and reflection helps us integrate this concept subconsciously.\u00a0 Pretty soon, we don\u2019t have to consciously think \u201cDoes this person share my values?\u201d\u00a0\u00a0 We know!\u00a0 Actually, you know within a short time of meeting someone (based on your level of intuition and evaluated experience).<\/p>\n
My relationship with my girlfriend the past 2 years has really solidified this concept.\u00a0 Relationships with boyfriend\/girlfriend\/spouse are going to have difficulties at times; there are ups and downs along the way.\u00a0 Having shared core-values helps get through the tough times and create a more joyful experience.\u00a0 That leads to a happier life.\u00a0 Relationships\/friends with people don\u2019t possess the same core-values are doomed to fail.<\/p>\n
Simply put: \u00a0\u00a0Life is a lot more joyful when you can spend more time with people who share your core-values.<\/p>\n
In the next few months, I\u2019ll be updating the blog with some older articles. \u00a0Some of them go back almost 10 years, but the information is still relevant today as it ever was.\u00a0 I never posted these articles, but will post them for benefit of readers.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"
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