{"id":300,"date":"2009-02-06T14:43:26","date_gmt":"2009-02-06T21:43:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/?p=300"},"modified":"2012-05-20T09:10:18","modified_gmt":"2012-05-20T16:10:18","slug":"sideways-a-must-see-movie-for-the-dating-advice-seeker","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/2009\/02\/06\/sideways-a-must-see-movie-for-the-dating-advice-seeker\/","title":{"rendered":"SIDEWAYS: A Must-See Movie for the Dating Advice Seeker"},"content":{"rendered":"

Sideways: A classic study in Dating and Beliefs<\/span><\/h2>\n

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I am big a fan of using movies as a teaching tool.\u00a0 A motion picture can really capture the non-verbal aspects of human interaction & communication so much better than any amount of written text could ever hope of doing.<\/p>\n

There are a long list of movies\/scenes relevant to dating that I usually recommend to guys seeking dating advice.\u00a0 Today’s pick is “Sideways,”<\/strong> starring Paul Giamatti and Thomas Hayden Church.<\/p>\n

What makes Sideways a great study is the depiction of two extreme archetypes and their belief systems regarding themselves, and their environment.\u00a0 One aspect of what makes Sideways an interesting film is its character-study.\u00a0 It can almost be likened to William Golding’s “Lord of the Flies,” one of my personal favorite novels.\u00a0 In that Novel, conflict emanated from two polar opposites in the characters Jack and Ralph.\u00a0 The former stood for the uninhibited self-indulgence and the latter represented what we’d call humane and conscionable sensibilities.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Freud would call it the “Id” and the “Super ego” which somewhat represents a similar dynamic, but then again, Freud was also supremely full of shit in a lot of cases.\u00a0 Nevertheless, the conflict grows of the diametrically opposed characters.<\/p>\n

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Let’s get to the characters in the film:<\/p>\n

Paul Giamatti plays Miles.<\/p>\n

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Clearly, an intellectual, Miles is also neurotic and unsure of himself. Too conscious of what others think of him, too unsure of himself and his own abilities, and sometimes too sensitive for his own good.\u00a0 Having suffered through a terrible divorce, he is uncertain about himself and fears change in his relationship status.\u00a0 He also is suffering through some sort of a depression, which he is currently taking medication for.\u00a0 Miles is still mourning over his divorce, but yet, you get the impression that his marriage wasn’t that great to begin with either.\u00a0 It’s a case of he being more afraid of his change to being single than remaining in a dreadful marriage.<\/p>\n

Thomas Hayden Church plays Jack.<\/p>\n

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Basically, Jack is the opposite of Miles.\u00a0 While not dumb, he is also not a bright individual.\u00a0 Probably possesses an average IQ, and has an average sense of humor.\u00a0 What he has going for himself is the unwavering belief in himself.\u00a0 He is what many dating-coaches call a natural.\u00a0 Part of that “Natural” disposition comes from not giving a fuck about anything. He seems to relishes in a bit of self-indulgence.\u00a0 He is not particularly sophisticated, nor interesting as a person, but he is charming on some level.<\/p>\n

I have met both of these archetypes in real life, but the fact of the matter is that most people fall somewhere in between these two characters, or perhaps it’s more accurate to state that most people possess personality elements from these two characters. The real question is: How much?<\/p>\n

In essence, here is the predisposition of the two main characters:<\/p>\n