{"id":427,"date":"2009-03-10T19:24:12","date_gmt":"2009-03-11T02:24:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/?p=427"},"modified":"2011-01-03T19:28:56","modified_gmt":"2011-01-04T02:28:56","slug":"strengthening-your-innergame-part-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/2009\/03\/10\/strengthening-your-innergame-part-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Strengthening Your Innergame, Part 2"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #ff0000;\">Strengthening Your Innergame, Part 2<\/span><\/h2>\n<div class=\"mceTemp mceIEcenter\" style=\"text-align: left;\">.<\/div>\n<div class=\"mceTemp mceIEcenter\" style=\"text-align: left;\">A couple of weeks ago, I wrote part 1 of this segment, where I talked about the concept of Keep Moving Forward.\u00a0 (If you haven&#8217;t read it, you ought to read that part first, here: <a href=\"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/2009\/02\/28\/strengthening-your-inner-game\">http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/2009\/02\/28\/strengthening-your-inner-game<\/a><\/div>\n<p>In that post, I mentioned hypnosis as one possible (and very effective) way of handling &#8220;emotional baggage.&#8221;\u00a0 I received a lot of replies by email about this and one guy even wrote to my Facebook about how he has tried Self-Hypnosis but hasn&#8217;t helped him in overcoming his approach anxiety.<\/p>\n<p>I realize there is a vast amount of confusion about what Hypnosis actually is and what its applications are.\u00a0 I didn&#8217;t know it myself until a few years ago either.\u00a0 Most people&#8217;s impression of Hypnosis has been formed by watching Stage shows, where participants were seemingly forced to do silly things on stage.\u00a0 While stage-hypnosis is entertaining, its true application is still misunderstood.<\/p>\n<p>So here is the goal of this Blog post:<\/p>\n<p><span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">To explain to you clearly, once and for all, HOW Hypnosis works, what it&#8217;s designed to do, how it can help you, and also explain the things it cannot do for you.<\/span> I am not here to sell you on it.\u00a0 I just want\u00a0the readers\u00a0of this Blog\u00a0to have an understanding of what it is so that if you ARE interested, you can avoid the charlatans in the future.<\/p>\n<p>It&#8217;s an attempt to help you assess your current situation if you feel that you&#8217;re down in the dumps.\u00a0 Most people, including professional medical staff don&#8217;t really understand its true applications.\u00a0 A few (probably a fraction of 1 percent) do and some actually apply its principles, which in turn enhances their ability to practice medicine.\u00a0 (And as always, this blog is not providing medical advice.\u00a0 If you have a medical issue, go see a doctor.)<\/p>\n<p>Hypnosis, in essence, is a vehicle to bypass &#8220;Critical Factor&#8221; and the conscious mind, in order to access the subconscious mind.\u00a0 What&#8217;s the purpose for doing this?\u00a0 Because the subconscious mind is where your permanent long-term memory is stored, (including events that may have happened to you even as a 3 year old which you have no conscious memory of at the moment) and it&#8217;s also responsible for your emotions.\u00a0 It&#8217;s the emotional mind, per se.<\/p>\n<p>In order to illustrate this in proper context, let&#8217;s use a concrete real life example that has nothing to do with dating, seduction or &#8220;Pick Up.&#8221;\u00a0 This is a case that a longtime Hypnotherapist (currently in his late 60s) was telling me about and I think you&#8217;ll enjoy it due to its straightforward nature.\u00a0 I&#8217;ll shorten the story a bit so we can get to the gist of it.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Case of the client with fear of bridges<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>A client came to him because he had developed a sudden phobia of bridges.\u00a0 Suddenly, out of nowhere, he was terrified of setting foot or driving on any sort of bridge.\u00a0 The fact that there were plenty of bridges in the region he in which he resided didn&#8217;t help matters.\u00a0 In traditional therapy, this would be a 6-8 month process, where they&#8217;d discuss the bridge, talking about his feelings towards it. Then show him a photo of it, and then maybe take a drive to see one from distance. Then one day, perhaps set 1 foot, and then go back again the next day and set 2 feet on it. \u00a0It&#8217;s a time consuming grueling process of trying to push him on that bridge.<\/p>\n<p>Again, this can work but you&#8217;re looking at a 6 to 8 month process.\u00a0 So what happened in the hypnosis session?\u00a0 It was discovered that when he was 9 years old, he fell off the roof of his house and hurt himself.\u00a0 Nothing permanent or severe, but the event of the fall was traumatizing enough for the kid.\u00a0 As he was falling, he was staring at a puddle of water, and that&#8217;s the last image in his mind before he hit he ground.\u00a0 That event passed and nothing became of it.\u00a0 Fast forward to 20 years later: While driving on a rainy day, he saw a puddle of water that was very reminiscent of that day he fell of the roof.\u00a0 (I am cutting out the details. He may have lost control on the road, etc,) That flashback to that event at the age of 9 horrified him again, and suddenly there is that phobia of that bridge.<\/p>\n<p>So, again, the bridge is <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">not<\/span> the problem.\u00a0 <strong>The problem is an event (or series of events &amp; experiences in the past) that can haunt people.<\/strong> In that case of an alcoholic, the alcohol is not the problem. \u00a0It never has been. \u00a0It&#8217;s events in that person&#8217;s past that haunt him\/her, which he is trying to escape from.<\/p>\n<p>Past events at a young age affect different individuals very differently.<\/p>\n<p>Hypnosis allows us to talk to the subconscious mind, recall these events and deal with them so that they no longer haunt us.\u00a0 The bridge-phobia man had that particular anxiety resolved in about 5 sessions.\u00a0 (As opposed to 6-8 months of therapy.)<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li> So how does this apply to Dating?<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Many people, Men as well as WOMEN, experience social anxieties.\u00a0 <span style=\"text-decoration: underline;\">Yes, this applies to women too<\/span>.\u00a0 I&#8217;ve had girls I was dating tell me that they experience certain anxieties in big crowds, or even at a dinner parties, or event sitting at a table in a restaurant with 4 or 5 people.\u00a0 These anxieties are all rooted in fear.\u00a0 Different people, obviously, experience different fears based on the life experience.<\/p>\n<p>As human beings, our contrast may be that we have different life experiences, and yet our commonality is that we all experience similar emotions based on those experiences.\u00a0 The power of hypnosis is to help deal with those fears and overcome the obstacles they&#8217;ve presented to us.<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li> Enter the Seduction Community:<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>Somehow, they took what is a benevolent and effective process to help people, and they turned into a sleazy marketing gimmick promising men that they could, in essence, hypnotize women into liking them.\u00a0 This appeals to megalomaniac characters that want more control over others and this where suddenly NLP surfaces its head in the community.\u00a0 It&#8217;s sold as an &#8220;Effective&#8221; way to communicate, but really, its promise is to sell &#8220;Control.&#8221;\u00a0 Its application may be different in other places but in &#8220;The Community&#8221; it&#8217;s sold as a vehicle of control.<\/p>\n<div class=\"mceTemp mceIEcenter\">\n<figure id=\"attachment_450\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-450\" style=\"width: 210px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-450\" src=\"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/03\/the-nlp-master21.jpg\" alt=\"the NLP Master\" width=\"210\" height=\"169\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-450\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">the NLP Master<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<\/div>\n<p>The sad thing is that people are not looking at the deep structure of their logic.\u00a0 Anyone who has resorted to this line of thinking has essentially given up. They&#8217;ve given up that they can be liked be as a genuinely &#8220;Cool&#8221; and Interesting human being.\u00a0 So the alternative is the villainous James Bond type character that now wants to control. When a person seeks mind-control of other human beings, he\/she has crossed the Rubicon of self-actualization.\u00a0 It reminds one of the Seinfeld Episode where George starts walking around town in sweatpants, to which Jerry replies: &#8220;You realize what you&#8217;re saying right? You realize what this says?\u00a0 You&#8217;re saying that&#8217;s it!\u00a0 You&#8217;re giving up! It&#8217;s officially over.&#8221;<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_459\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-459\" style=\"width: 225px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-459 \" src=\"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/03\/costanza-nlp.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"225\" height=\"169\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-459\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">George Costanza<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<ul>\n<li>Back to the Hypnosis and its potential benefit to you:<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>It can help reduce social anxieties.\u00a0 A few sessions of hypnosis is not going to cure all approach anxiety.\u00a0 In my experience, there are two things main components that help eradicate the bulk of approach anxiety. (This is a very general list).\u00a0 Those are:<\/p>\n<ol type=\"1\">\n<li><span style=\"color: #ff0000;\">Constant Exposure<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"color: #ff0000;\">Developing A Strong &amp; Positive Self-Image.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p>Hypnosis can help with the latter.\u00a0 It can help you start the movement towards a better self-image.\u00a0 A\u00a0couple of\u00a0sessions of therapy, however, do not magically transform a self-loathing shameful person to a charming confident person with a high self-image.\u00a0\u00a0A couple of sessions do\u00a0not transform a George Costanza into a George Clooney. That takes a bit of time and work.\u00a0 Just a little bit&#8230;.<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_445\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-445\" style=\"width: 245px\" class=\"wp-caption alignright\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-445 \" src=\"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/03\/clooney12.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"245\" height=\"245\" srcset=\"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/03\/clooney12.jpg 245w, http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/03\/clooney12-150x150.jpg 150w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 245px) 100vw, 245px\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-445\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">George Clooney<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p>Look at it this way:\u00a0 Let&#8217;s say you are overweight and want to lose weight 50 pounds of fat (Roughly about 25 Kilograms for my international Audience.)\u00a0 Let&#8217;s also say that you have not done any proper physical activity in years and you easily become fatigued.<\/p>\n<p>Hypnosis, in essence, is that workout buddy who goes to the fitness gym WITH YOU 3 or 4 times a week, for the first 3 weeks. He helps you create and maintain that momentum.\u00a0 That is the key concept here: <strong>MOMENTUM<\/strong>.\u00a0 If you&#8217;ve been hitting the fitness gym for 12 sessions in the past 3-4 weeks, then it&#8217;s rather easy to keep going.\u00a0 In fact, it may be easier to keep going, than to stop going at that point.<\/p>\n<p>Are you going to lose that 50 pounds of fat in those 3 weeks?\u00a0 NO!\u00a0 It may take 6-8 months depending on how hard you workout and how closely you monitor your nutrition.\u00a0 Still, you have started the process.\u00a0 You are now able to make progress.<\/p>\n<p>So you\u00a0feel like you&#8217;re in the trenches, stuck knee deep in the thick mud where it&#8217;s cold and it feels lonely.\u00a0 A therapy like hypnosis can help you take those first few steps to start your momentum to walk OUT of the muddy trenches towards better conditions.\u00a0 You still have to walk!\u00a0 Back to our Rocky Story: You still have to keep Moving Forward.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-443 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/03\/rocky-running-on-ca-beach.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"200\" \/><\/p>\n<p>There are two kinds of people who become entangled in the community&#8217;s &#8220;Easy-answers&#8221; and I am going to discuss that in part 3.\u00a0 For the moment, let&#8217;s talk about more analogies as to what Hypnosis can do and cannot do.\u00a0 Again, let&#8217;s start with non-dating related so you can see it from third person perspective.<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re a Mixed Martial Artist or a boxer and experience anxiety, hypnosis can help lessen that anxiety before stepping into the ring.\u00a0 It helps you move forward.\u00a0 It cannot, however, teach you HOW to kickbox or grapple on the ground.<\/p>\n<p>Similarly, if you cannot play basketball, hypnosis cannot teach you basketball.\u00a0 This is not the Matrix movie where they can stick a giant USB port in the back of your neck and upload a program into your brain.\u00a0\u00a0 However, IF you are a basketball player who chokes in big games and clutch situations because you&#8217;re nervous, hypnosis can help with that.\u00a0 <em>It can help the basketball player become better indirectly by removing his mental blocks and emotional anxieties.\u00a0 It cannot teach him the game of basketball. <\/em><\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-441 aligncenter\" src=\"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2009\/03\/rocky-punch.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"300\" height=\"188\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Is this starting to make sense?<\/p>\n<p>If you decide to get any sort of therapy, be it Hypnosis, see a shrink, whatever, then it&#8217;s important to realize that these are not cure-alls.\u00a0 They are steps in creating momentum.\u00a0 <strong>They are steps to enable you, to\u00a0provide you\u00a0that wiggle room to take your foot out of the trench.<\/strong><\/p>\n<p><strong>They are steps to allow you to start the process\u00a0of<\/strong> <span style=\"color: #ff0000;\">&#8220;<\/span><strong><span style=\"color: #ff0000;\">KEEP MOVING FORWARD.&#8221;<\/span><\/strong> You still have to work on certain skills.\u00a0 The basketball player still has to work on shooting the ball, dribbling, passing, rebounding, increasing his basketball IQ, and playing defense.<\/p>\n<p>The guy who wants to attract women still has to work on his skills to understand and read <strong>subtext<\/strong> and sub-communication from women, his skills to be <strong>interesting in conversation<\/strong>, his prowess in story-telling skills to capture her imagination, and his ability to <strong>FLIRT <\/strong>with women.<\/p>\n<p>If you think you could use development in those skills, then I highly recommend my Audio Course:\u00a0 <a href=\"http:\/\/www.attractwomenanywhere.com\/audiocourse.shtml\">http:\/\/www.attractwomenanywhere.com\/audiocourse.shtml<\/a><\/p>\n<p>Stay tuned for part 3 of Strengthening Your InnerGame<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Strengthening Your Innergame, Part 2 . 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