{"id":512,"date":"2009-03-18T19:34:19","date_gmt":"2009-03-19T02:34:19","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/?p=512"},"modified":"2011-01-03T19:25:59","modified_gmt":"2011-01-04T02:25:59","slug":"strengthening-your-innergame-part-3-pitfalls","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/2009\/03\/18\/strengthening-your-innergame-part-3-pitfalls\/","title":{"rendered":"Strengthening Your Innergame, Part 3  (Pitfalls)"},"content":{"rendered":"<h2 style=\"text-align: center;\"><span style=\"color: #ff0000;\">Strengthening Your Innergame, Part 3 <\/span><\/h2>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Gaining Confidence is a gradual process that takes time.\u00a0 Similar to building muscles, it&#8217;s a process of constantly making gains.\u00a0 On one hand, it may seem frustrating that it&#8217;s a seemingly lengthy process, but on the other, its effects are much more longer lasting.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Again, if you&#8217;ve spent the last 10 years weightlifting, those muscles are permanent.\u00a0 Even if you abandoned weightlifting, for an entire year, you still could get back to where you were in a matter of a few months.\u00a0 It won&#8217;t take years to get back what you took time to build.\u00a0 That&#8217;s the beauty of it.\u00a0 They call it muscle memory.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">A high self-image built on a solid foundation is also long lasting, and tough to abandon.\u00a0 Keeping with our theme, it starts with taking those steps forward.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">In parts 1 and 2, we went over a rough outline of how you start taking your foot out of the trench to provide that wiggle room to keep moving forward.\u00a0 In this part, we are going to focus on the pitfalls of quick-fix solutions.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">If you&#8217;re enamored with quick-fix solutions that&#8217;ll solve your issues within 2-3 days, then please go ahead and try them now.\u00a0 Stop reading my Blog.\u00a0 When you fail miserably, then come back and reread what I have been writing.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">There are two kinds of magic-bullet schools of thought:<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">\n<ol style=\"text-align: left;\" type=\"1\">\n<li>Innergame \u00a0Magic Bullet<\/li>\n<li>Outergame Magic Bullet<\/li>\n<\/ol>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">\n<ul style=\"text-align: left;\">\n<li>Let&#8217;s examine group 1:<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">The Innergame magic-bullet schools are those who sell and buy into the idea that sheer meditation at home can magically produce results one day.\u00a0 This very well may be true, but I have yet to see one case of it.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">If I told you about a performer who&#8217;d never been on stage in his life and was about to walk in front of a live audience, you&#8217;d expect him to have a bit of nervous energy.\u00a0 Depending on the individual makeup of the person, there would more or less of it.\u00a0 For some, it would even be combined with excitement.\u00a0 But then what if I told that the performer who has never been on stage expects to meditate at home until one day he feels absolutely no nervousness at all and he can finally walk onto the stage in front of that live audience?<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Most of you would laugh and think it to be obvious and absurd, and you&#8217;d be right.\u00a0 Heck, some of you would even think that I was f*cking with you.\u00a0 Yet, there are people convinced that they can meditate, or channel cosmic forces of the universe only understood by comic book heroes, that will enable them to &#8220;Cold-Approach&#8221; a woman they&#8217;ve never met before with zero nervousness, and with the comfort rivaling that of walking out of your bedroom in the morning into the kitchen.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">This is the same group who thinks sitting home and reading Eckhart Tolle and\/or (Insert self-help guru name here)\u00a0 all day will suddenly solve all of their problems.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">It doesn&#8217;t work that way.\u00a0 At least, not in my experience and observation.\u00a0 Sometimes, you gotta suck it up, take the hits, and we&#8217;re back to the words of the great philosopher <strong>Rocky Balboa: You Keep Moving Forward.<\/strong><\/p>\n<ul style=\"text-align: left;\">\n<li> Let&#8217;s examine group 2:<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">The Outergame-magic bullet schools teache a set of skills that are predicated on the ability to learn a memorized script of routines and spit them back out verbatim.\u00a0 Then they pile on top of that with strategies and tactics for everything.\u00a0 They start talking about micro-loops, big-loops, loose loops, and they have so many acronyms and code words, they&#8217;d leave a spy in the intelligence business envious.\u00a0 They keep working on their script and they keep trying to polish their loops, and start trying to run a military operations with steps C4, E2, and X55.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">This group has an edge over group 1 in that they ARE actually gaining experience talking to live women.\u00a0 Where they fail is that they <strong>neglect their core skills of developing a personality or solid communications skills.<\/strong> Most of the people in this group are good for about 10-15 minutes before they &#8220;Run out of Material&#8221; and have nothing left to say.\u00a0 This is the same group of people that you cannot introduce to your friends, the same group that you cannot invite to a house party, because they don&#8217;t &#8220;act normal.&#8221;\u00a0 (And we&#8217;re talking a wide range of normal.)<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Let&#8217;s be clear on one thing: It&#8217;s not that the routines mentioned above are evil.\u00a0 For some guys, it&#8217;s a good training wheel, but they are NOT a substitute for a personality.\u00a0 Reading other people&#8217;s anecdotes and presenting them is not personality.\u00a0\u00a0 As a rule of thumb, The Routine-dependent guys are normally easy to spot at a house party because they can&#8217;t seem to blend with the other guys.\u00a0 They can&#8217;t engage the group and assimilate as one of the guys who is bullshitting around, having fun and sharing a few laughs.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">Sometimes, the members of this second category do experience success in dating women, because they are interesting guys with interesting personalities, \u00a0but they still categorically deny any effort to get over their emotional baggage.\u00a0 As a result, they still can&#8217;t figure out why their increased success has not been fruitful in bringing them happiness.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">If you feel like you&#8217;re not very good with women and feel like it&#8217;s always been that way, then start working on both parts of your life.\u00a0 You have to make an effort to talk to more women in various circumstances.\u00a0 The more you do it, the more you&#8217;ll feel comfortable around women in general.\u00a0 You have to work on the emotional baggage and poor-self esteem.\u00a0 You also need to work on developing and\/or enhancing &#8220;Attributes&#8221; and traits that are attractive.\u00a0 (Demeanor, Flirting, teasing, being sexual, being interesting, being fun, being comfortable with who you are, being masculine, etc&#8230;..)<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: left;\">That&#8217;s the way to salvation&#8230;&#8230;. 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