{"id":618,"date":"2009-04-12T14:37:57","date_gmt":"2009-04-12T21:37:57","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/?p=618"},"modified":"2011-01-03T19:15:53","modified_gmt":"2011-01-04T02:15:53","slug":"lessons-learned-from-pua-goldie-locks","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/2009\/04\/12\/lessons-learned-from-pua-goldie-locks\/","title":{"rendered":"Lessons Learned from PUA Goldie-Locks"},"content":{"rendered":"

Lessons from PUA Goldie-Locks<\/span><\/h2>\n

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At its time, it was THE major gathering of teachers of seduction.\u00a0 Seduction experts from seemingly all over the world had come to this place by planes, trains and horseback to congregate and discuss their “Seduction methods.”<\/p>\n

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Super convention<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

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About to take the stage was PUA-Goldie locks. [note: PUA is a moronic acronym that stands for Pick Up Artist.]\u00a0 PUA Goldie-locks had male-model looks and an attitude to match.\u00a0 We were in awe.\u00a0 We were told we are in for something special.\u00a0 We had been graced by greatness.\u00a0 Wow, my first encounter with Goldielocks!<\/p>\n

“You see that man up there?\u00a0 Ha?\u00a0 You see THAT Man<\/strong>?\u00a0 He is the Don.\u00a0 That man is the Don,” A seminar worker cheered.\u00a0 I told him I thought that the last guy was the best.\u00a0 He yelled back,\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 “Well, yeah, the last guy is the best, but then,\u00a0this guy blows him away.\u00a0 Listen to what he has to say.\u00a0 He is that good.\u00a0 Pay VERY close attention.\u00a0 You understand?\u00a0 You WANT to hear what this man going on stage has to say.”<\/p>\n

So I watched and listened, attempting to absorb as much information as possible from this master who seemed to walk on water for most people.\u00a0 Rumors flew around in loud whispers across the room.<\/p>\n

–“I hear PUA-Goldie locks has been with over a 1000 women.”<\/em><\/p>\n

—“Dude, no.\u00a0 Not a 1000!\u00a0 I heard PUA Goldie locks has been with over 2000!\u00a0 That guy is really good.”<\/em><\/p>\n

The envious stares gazed upon PUA goldie locks as he started telling his stories of how he sets up his scores with women.\u00a0\u00a0 What a life he leads. He has everything.\u00a0 He looks like a male model, has women crawling all over him, and seems to have it all figured out.<\/p>\n

Who could want more than that out of life?\u00a0 Surely, he lived a life that left the mere mortals envious.\u00a0 He was Zeus amongst the mortals.\u00a0\u00a0 Looking like a soap opera star, he always had women hanging around.\u00a0 Sporting long silky blonde hair that danced to the wind, eyebrows plucked to perfection and skin that glistened so well it would make the girls at the Clinique counter wet with envy.<\/p>\n

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Goldie Loks in all his Glory<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

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After his legendary appearance on stage, PUA Goldie-locks disappeared for a few years.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 He vanished back into the fairy tale he came from.\u00a0 People went their separate ways, but every so often, you’d hear about his presentation and the legend that surrounded him.\u00a0 In speakeasy places, basements and dark alleys people whispered, “Whatever happened to Goldie-locks?”<\/em> Across the land, in bars and hidden locations,\u00a0inquiring and envious minds wondered….<\/p>\n

\n

Wow, what ever became of Goldie-locks?<\/p>\n

\n<\/blockquote>\n

I went my own way too.\u00a0 I went out, tried everything, pushed the edge of social dynamics, became fanatical, discovering what was possible, studying nuances of human behavior, reaction and interaction, what made us tick, what made us react, what moved us and of course what attracted us.<\/p>\n

I met and hung out with a whole lot of other PUAs, the top of the food chain, cream of the crops, Kings of the jungle, (I am running out of clich\u00e9s.)\u00a0 I went through the gamut.\u00a0\u00a0 I hung out with cool guys, good guys, talented guys, ambitious guys, socio-paths, pathological liars, and the like.<\/p>\n

I became good in my own right.\u00a0 Very good.\u00a0 Able to approach strangers anytime, anywhere, leap tall buildings and stop runaway locomotives.\u00a0 I had learned a lot to the point that I felt I had far surpassed any knowledge goldie-locks could ever teach.<\/p>\n

Enter PUA-Golie locks into the scene once again:<\/p>\n

    \n
  • “Extra, Extra.\u00a0 Goldie Locks has returned to Earth.”<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n
    \"\"
    Return of the Goldie-Locks<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

    .<\/p>\n

    He is back and he is now a guru giving dating advice.\u00a0\u00a0 Through coincidence, we meet again at a local nightspot, and this time, I am no longer the kid with the envious eyes.\u00a0 For better or worse, I am now considered a guru too even if I don’t want that label.\u00a0 We meet on even plains this time.\u00a0 His hair still glistens, his skin still done by clinique. No longer a student, I start hanging out with goldie-locks every so often.\u00a0 We happen to frequent some of the same nightlife establishments.\u00a0 We have a lot of conversations over the course of the next 6 months.\u00a0 He has some very good ideas and some ideas I don’t agree with at all.<\/p>\n

    As we spend more time, I begin to realize a strange phenomenon:\u00a0 That PUA Goldie locks is incredibly shallow.\u00a0 It’s not that he is bad or good.\u00a0 He is not evil nor is he out to get anyone.\u00a0 He doesn’t mean anyone harm from what I can tell.\u00a0He just operates on a very surface level.\u00a0 Conversations never have any depth to them and he is never interested in anything more than C<\/span>ocktails and After-Parties.<\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

    He is just shallow.\u00a0\u00a0 There is no better way to explain it.\u00a0 I wish I had a better synonym or description.\u00a0 His entire life revolves around “Cocktails” and “After Parties.”<\/p>\n

    A 100,000 years of human evolution has surmounted to : Cocktails and After parties<\/strong>.\u00a0 If the fucking cavemen had cocktails and after-parties, we would have never progressed to space exploration.\u00a0 So we ought to be thankful that cocktails and after-parties were not discovered too soon in our evolutionary curve.<\/p>\n

    I am talking to one of my favorite guys in the scene one day, and we are discussing mutual acquaintances.\u00a0 Subject of goldie-locks comes up.\u00a0 I say, “Ya know, it’s amazing: Cumulatively, I have had over 10 hours upon hours of conversation with that dude.\u00a0 Yet, I know nothing about him, except that he grew up in the city of\u00a0 [xyz].\u00a0 That’s where he spent his high school years.<\/p>\n

    He roars: “Shit, that’s more than I know.\u00a0 I didn’t even know what town he was from.”<\/em><\/p>\n

    I realize that the\u00a0biography of Goldie-Locks is similar to that of Jesus of Nazareth in that there is no accounting for him before his mid 20s.\u00a0 We know that Goldie-locks was born most likely in a hospital somewhere in America, but then we know nothing about him til he is like 25, ordering cocktails and going to after parties and banging chicks.<\/p>\n

    Over 10 hours of conversation, and I know nothing about goldie-locks.\u00a0 I know nothing about where he grew up, what he did for a living before, what his passions are in life, if he has any passions, or if he has any aspirations beyond drinking cocktails and looking for after parties.\u00a0 I don’t even know if watches or likes sports, politics, or underwater basketweaving.\u00a0 He also knows nothing about me.<\/p>\n

    It’s not for lack of trying.\u00a0 I tried to have a conversation that had substance.\u00a0 12 hours of talking with someone and you’d think you’d know something about them, why they became who they are. Not Goldie-locks.\u00a0 He just wants Cocktails.<\/strong><\/p>\n

    It’s not that he is trying to be alpha, or that he is trying to be mysterious.\u00a0 Nothing matters to him beyond a good time, a few cocktails and maybe some snatch.\u00a0 And no, I don’t mean a woman.\u00a0 I really do mean a snatch<\/span>.\u00a0 If somehow a piece of vagina could be kept on life support next to a cocktail bar, goldie-locks would be in Heaven. In fact, if goldie-locks believed in heaven, that’d be his depiction of it.<\/p>\n

    After 6 months of sporadically spending time with Goldie locks, I realized that he really doesn’t have any close friends, male or female, that his relationships are all running on surface level, discussing repetitive banal garbage that’d make one want to shoot oneself from boredom.\u00a0 A tsunami could have just killed 500 million people in South east Asia and he’d be concerned if that’d affect the price & availability of his favorite rum.\u00a0\u00a0 In fact, I could see the interaction now.<\/p>\n

    .<\/p>\n

    Random Person
    \n“Wow, Have you seen the images of the people
    \nwiped out in the Sunami?, goldielocks?\u00a0 It’s sad.”<\/p>\n

    Goldie-locks
    \n“No, I haven’t.\u00a0 I heard about it. It’s sad.\u00a0 All we can do is
    \nsend them positive thoughts. Wow, it just cost
    \nan extra $5 for my cocktail.\u00a0 That tsunami does
    \naffect everyone.\u00a0 The price of imported
    \nRum has skyrocketed.”<\/p>\n

    Being a fan of human psychology, behavior and social interaction, I do wonder how such people come to exist. Are there brains wired differently than the rest?\u00a0 OR is it a product of their social conditioning?\u00a0 Perhaps a combination of both.\u00a0 You’ve gotta wonder:\u00a0 How can a person be so oblivious to anything that goes on around him?\u00a0 People getting slaughtered in Dafur?\u00a0 Important Presidential Election coming up in the United States?\u00a0 Man thrown in jail wrongfully accused?<\/p>\n

      \n
    • “Cocktails, parties, more cocktails.\u00a0 Where is\u00a0 my drink?\u00a0 Where is the party?”<\/strong><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

      And it’s not that I expect him to pick up a gun and go to Africa to fight the War-lord Mumba-lumba, in a crusading effort to bring justice.\u00a0 But fucking hey, how about at least reading and knowing about it?<\/p>\n

      If a biographical movie were made about his life, it’d have the Seinfeld motif: “Goldielocks: The Life About Nothing!”<\/p>\n

      Growing up, I always held in high esteem people who stood for something despite the odds.\u00a0 Actually still do.\u00a0 So it’s rather befuddling to see someone who stands for nothing.\u00a0\u00a0 War, poverty, politics, burning of the rainforest, holocaust, global warming…. Nothing ever registers on his radar except cocktails and after parties.<\/p>\n

      I am reminded of the Vietnam -War Movies where one soldier carries his wounded friend on his back to the chopper and by doing so increases the risk of getting shot himself by a 100 fold.\u00a0 He puts down his life to carry his friend out.\u00a0 In my mind, I imagine if goldielocks had been in that situation.<\/p>\n

      Exterior- Dense Jungle- Daytime (Machine gun fire everywhere, explosions, chaos)<\/p>\n

      .<\/p>\n

      Wounded Soldier
      \n<\/strong>I took a hit in my legs. I can’t walk
      \nGodamit!<\/p>\n

      Goldie-locks
      \n<\/strong>Listen, just think positive. I have to get
      \nGoing because I am really swamped right now.
      \nI am busy Making arrangements for an after-party.
      \nYou should stop by too.<\/p>\n

      Wounded Soldier
      \n<\/strong>What? I can’t walk!
      \nHelp me Goldielocks.
      \nI can still hop on one leg.\u00a0 Help me
      \nGET ME BACK to
      \nthe chopper. Get me back to the LZ.<\/p>\n

      Goldie-locks<\/strong>
      \nListen, I’d love to help out.\u00a0 But that’d slow
      \nMe down and I’d miss the first chopper.
      \nIf I wait for the 2nd<\/sup> chopper, I’d be late
      \nto the after party…<\/span><\/p>\n

      Wounded Soldier
      \n<\/strong>Come on Goldielocks.\u00a0 Call in for some
      \nHelp.\u00a0 I am in severe pain here.\u00a0 I want to get
      \nback home.\u00a0\u00a0 At least, leave your
      \nMorphine pack here with.
      \nIt fucking hurts!!!<\/p>\n

      Goldielocks
      \n<\/strong>I’d like to, but I’ve invited some lady friends
      \nAnd I’ll be needing the morphine for the After-party,<\/span>
      \nIf you know what I mean. (wink)
      \nAgain, I’d love to see you there!<\/span><\/p>\n

      Wounded Solider
      \n<\/strong>Damn you goldie locks!\u00a0 We are Marines<\/strong>!
      \nRemember our code: God, Unit, Country!\u00a0 Come on!
      \n<\/strong>Help me limp outta here!!<\/p>\n

      Goldielocks,
      \n<\/strong>Nope.\u00a0The code is:\u00a0 Cocktails, After-parties, Snatch.
      \n<\/em>Gotta go.\u00a0 Come to the After-Party if you can.<\/p>\n

      .<\/p>\n

      It all seems silly in retrospect.\u00a0 This is what I looked up to?????\u00a0 This is what we were envious of??\u00a0 This was the goal that was placed for us as a pinnacle of achievement in our personal life?<\/p>\n

      Maybe Goldie locks is a happy person circling through a revolving door of cocktails and after-parties.\u00a0 However, the great thing about my journey is that it has taught me valuable lessons and allowed me to realize my core values more vividly than ever before.<\/p>\n

      Perhaps it is the mark of most socialites to have a whole lot of the same 5 minute conversations with other shallow individuals repeatedly.\u00a0 (And make no mistake, Goldie-locks is a just one in a long line of socialites.)<\/p>\n

      It occurs to me that Goldie-locks could be Bill Murray’s character in the movie “Groundhog day” where his character lives the same day over and over again for many years.<\/p>\n

      WAIT!\u00a0\u00a0 Goldie-locks DOES live Billy Murray’s life in Grondhog day.\u00a0\u00a0 It’s cocktails and after parties everyday for a 100 years.\u00a0 It’s the same 5 to 10 min conversation with the same pool of the same 20 people every day.\u00a0 “Hey, how are you?\u00a0 Good to hear.\u00a0 How was your night?\u00a0\u00a0 What are you doing later?\u00a0 What are you drinking? Where is the after party?\u00a0 You coming to the after party?\u00a0 You really should join us in the after party.”<\/p>\n

      Henceforth, I look at PUA goldielocks and think to myself,<\/p>\n

      “Man, I don’t want to be anything like this guy..\u00a0 I am nothing like that dude, & his life is nothing I want to emulate.\u00a0 Hey,\u00a0 maybe it’s because I actually like having friends or maybe it’s that I actually enjoy talking women as human beings…..”<\/em><\/p>\n

      Despite the sarcastic satire of my reflections, I don’t dislike goldie-locks. In fact, when I next see him, I’ll probably joke around and discuss the next after-party over a cocktail, unless he reads this blog and identifies himself as goldielocks.\u00a0 Then again, my blog doesn’t serve cocktails so odds are good, he wouldn’t be reading it.<\/p>\n

      Actually, I highly doubt he’d care even if he read it.\u00a0 My blog doesn’t affect his after-party.\u00a0 I do wonder if he knows<\/strong> he is shallow.\u00a0 It’s like do really retarded people KNOW they’re operating from a diminished capacity? Do dogs know they’re dogs?\u00a0 OK, enough random thoughts.<\/p>\n

      It occurs to me that goldielocks is practically a “mimbo.”\u00a0 He is the male version of the club bimbos most people make fun of, or mock in pop-culture.\u00a0 In retrospect, I feel a little silly having looked up to these people, even if it were just a brief period in time.\u00a0 I did a couple of lessons from the experience.\u00a0 I learned that the “lifestyle” some people sell isn’t always what it’s cracked up to be, and that you can learn a few pointers from somone without actually respecting\u00a0his ways or behavior…..\u00a0\u00a0 We have Goldie-locks to thank for that.<\/p>\n

      Now, let’s drink a cocktail and figure out where the After-Party is tonight………<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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