{"id":790,"date":"2009-05-13T00:21:06","date_gmt":"2009-05-13T07:21:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/?p=790"},"modified":"2011-01-03T18:56:58","modified_gmt":"2011-01-04T01:56:58","slug":"approaching-women-directly-part-7-beliefs-actions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/2009\/05\/13\/approaching-women-directly-part-7-beliefs-actions\/","title":{"rendered":"Approaching Women Directly, Part 7: Beliefs & Actions"},"content":{"rendered":"

The Direct Approach <\/span><\/h2>\n

Personal Examples, Self-Image, Beliefs & Behaviors.<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

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Glad you’ve been enjoying this long series of posts on Direct, Indirect and sub-communication.\u00a0 The overall feedback has been overwhelmingly positive and it’s good to see people are getting it.<\/p>\n

In today’s post, I am going to talk about a lot of what I do personally.\u00a0 This is in regards to the aforementioned conversation with Swinggcat in the very first post of this saga.<\/p>\n

I gave some thought to the beliefs that I have behind the actions I take in my interactions with women these days and I came up with a few key points that I am going to share with you all.\u00a0 Keep in mind that these are not things I consciously thing about when I am interacting with a woman.\u00a0 It’s more a case of me sitting down and trying to reverse-engineer the beliefs behind my actions.<\/p>\n

The goal is to provide you with a glimpse regarding my beliefs\/behavior and if there is something you believe is applicable to YOU, then feel free to adopt that mindset.\u00a0 The point, however, is not to copy me but rather to take away things you can apply<\/span> yourself.\u00a0\u00a0 “My JKD is not your JKD,”<\/em> Bruce Lee used to say.\u00a0 (Another Bruce Lee reference? Come on!\u00a0 Seriously?”)<\/p>\n

There is no one-way of doing things.\u00a0 Personal expression of the individual is not limited to mechanical methods. However, it seems that winning mindsets are often similar be it in the world of sports, business or personal development.\u00a0 So throughout the post, I am going to switch between Innergame and Outergame throughout this article as I explain the process.<\/p>\n

How should you go about approaching women and attracting them successfully?<\/p>\n

This all depends on what type of game you play.\u00a0 Well, game is a harsh word, so how about what type of archetype do you present yourself as?<\/p>\n

Are you the fun social extrovert?<\/p>\n

Are you the cocky jock who seems to enjoy needling people?<\/p>\n

Are you the passionate artist\/musician?<\/p>\n

Are you the refined intellectual who is worldly?<\/p>\n

Naturally, there is some cross over but it’s important to first know yourself.\u00a0 You have to know what you’re working with.\u00a0 Would you go into a car race not knowing what kind of car you were sitting in?\u00a0 Without knowing what the engine size, torque, horsepower, acceleration, handling, braking, gearbox ratio, and top speed are?\u00a0 That’d be pretty f*cking dumb. The same concept applies here.<\/p>\n

If you’re the refined world traveling intellectual trying to carry out cocky funny “Nice Shoes, did you buy them new?” \u00a0insult lines that you read in a manifesto somewhere, you’re shooting yourself in the foot.\u00a0 You’re working against the grain. You’re actually hurting your chances instead of improving them.<\/p>\n

When I first started, I was going with the high-energy fun club guy.\u00a0 That’s the persona I presented and it attracted a certain type of woman.\u00a0 Unbeknownst to me at the time, it also turned off certain kind of women too, and those were the higher quality women.<\/p>\n

So I had to look and embrace the core of what I was.\u00a0 Truth of the matter is, I don’t really like talking about jealous girlfriends, or Britney Spears’s smile or newest haircut.\u00a0 Who are we kidding?\u00a0 I’d rather get my teeth drilled without Novocain at the dentist than have a conversation about Britney Spears.\u00a0 It’s important to build something around your strengths and how you present yourself.\u00a0 That’s how you build your edge.\u00a0 (See, Edge Article for reference later.)<\/p>\n

Wait!!\u00a0 Let’s back up a step.<\/p>\n

How you present yourself depends on your self-Image.<\/span><\/strong> Your self-image has to be believed by you.\u00a0 After reading this article, come up with a tag phrase, something that can serve as a quick reminder in one sentence that explains your personal self Image.\u00a0 This is how YOU see YOURSELF.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 I have one for myself: “Passionate & Artistic Intellectual in a jock’s body.”<\/p>\n