{"id":796,"date":"2009-05-14T00:55:53","date_gmt":"2009-05-14T07:55:53","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/?p=796"},"modified":"2011-01-03T18:54:58","modified_gmt":"2011-01-04T01:54:58","slug":"approaching-women-directly-part-8-building-that-bridge","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/2009\/05\/14\/approaching-women-directly-part-8-building-that-bridge\/","title":{"rendered":"Approaching Women Directly, Part 8: Building that Bridge."},"content":{"rendered":"

Approaching Women Directly, Part 8
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Beliefs, Actions, Innergame-Outergame Bridge<\/strong><\/span><\/h2>\n

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Today, I am going to talk about some of my personal beliefs that I deconstructed after reflected back on my interactions recently.\u00a0 Hopefully, you did the assignment yesterday and thought about yourself image, and what your catch phrase would be.<\/p>\n

Remember that this catchphrase helps as a reminder to help keep you moving forward.\u00a0 It also allows your actions to be in alignment with your beliefs.<\/p>\n

The following are examples of some of my personal beliefs.\u00a0 I am going to list the belief, then discuss how that belief affects my actions and behavior in real world applications.\u00a0 Again, as a reminder: These are not thinks I think about.\u00a0 They’re more realizations that many of my actions stem from these beliefs.<\/p>\n

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  • Personal belief: I am fine with whatever results occur.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    This was a tough belief to ascertain.\u00a0 If you’re well indoctrinated in the “Seduction Community” you have to overcome so much community conditioning to internalize this belief.\u00a0 This is one of the essential differences between “Naturals” and community people. A natural takes a shot and forgets about it\u00a010 minutes later.\u00a0 He does not dwell on it!\u00a0 A community person analyzes what could have been done differently for days to come. He’ll spend much time\u00a0in neurosis.<\/p>\n

    So have a positive self image, be confident in your abilities, and hone your conversational as well as foundational skills.\u00a0 From there, be OK with the fact that sometimes other people may not like you.\u00a0 In sports, business, and academics, the motto is work harder, get better results.<\/strong> It’s a tried and true formula.\u00a0 The only exception<\/strong> of it is in attraction.\u00a0 You can’t try harder and harder to make someone like you.\u00a0 In fact, it’s counterproductive.<\/p>\n

    You can work on personal skills, but trying ever so hard to make another person like you actually may even back fire at some point. Hence, I eventually had to learn what my older & wiser friends had already known: You asked someone out?\u00a0 She doesn’t want to go? Big fucking deal.<\/p>\n

    I have to give a quick disclaimer here: By no means am I advocating mediocrity.\u00a0 If your results are consistently poor then you take steps to improve them.\u00a0 However, once you get your shit together, there’ll come a point where you realize that cold-approaching is a low percentage game.\u00a0 You may approach 10 women and have 5 or 6 good interactions.\u00a0 You could have Brad Pitt’s looks, George Clooney’s charming personality, Arnold’s body in his prime, and Donald Trump’s bank account\/assets.\u00a0 Some women will still blow you off for whatever reason during a cold-approach….. And that’s OK.<\/p>\n

    Here is some extreme candor for ya:\u00a0\u00a0 Being OK with the results was extremely tough BECAUSE of the seduction community conditioning.\u00a0 I could have a cold-approach interaction that went OK but didn’t work out and there is someone to want to provide a solution on how you could have improved it.\u00a0 “Hey man, you should have done routine X,Y,Z, then did some open clown micro-loops , then pulled back, then did cocky funny, then closed the clown micro-loop, after running an NLP Pattern.\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 Then you would have gotten that girl.”<\/p>\n

    “Really?\u00a0 Seriously?\u00a0 Go fuck yourself you freak!”\u00a0 Is how I’d reply to the previous statement now days.\u00a0 I may not even say that, but I think it.\u00a0 Is this right for you?\u00a0 You decide for you.\u00a0 It’s harsh and crass and\u00a0It works for me.<\/p>\n