{"id":935,"date":"2009-05-31T22:06:12","date_gmt":"2009-06-01T05:06:12","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/?p=935"},"modified":"2011-01-03T18:41:42","modified_gmt":"2011-01-04T01:41:42","slug":"your-path-to-instinctive-mastery","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/2009\/05\/31\/your-path-to-instinctive-mastery\/","title":{"rendered":"Your Path to Instinctive Mastery"},"content":{"rendered":"

Instinctive Mastery in Dating &\u00a0Attracting Women<\/span><\/h2>\n

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The last Blog entry evoked certain emotions from people regarding “Being Fine the way you are.”\u00a0 Certainly, many people need to improve social skills, but then there are those whose greater problem is a poor self-image. I am going to get back to that shortly.<\/p>\n

It’s a common experience that the more you study a subject in depth, there more details and nuances you begin to grasp.\u00a0 It’s my experience that as you realize the fine details, you also see an overlying theme of simplicity that runs rampant throughout the entire theme.<\/p>\n

This does not apply just to established sciences.\u00a0 We can take sports as an example.\u00a0 I consider myself a bit of a basketball snob.\u00a0 I love the game and am arrogant enough to believe I understand it better than a lot of people who play it at far higher levels.\u00a0 (Which may not be saying all that much once you see interviews with some pro athletes who can’t speak 3 proper sentences.)\u00a0\u00a0 The point is this: The more details you learn, the more fascinated you become to know more, and yet you see an underlying simplicity to the game.<\/p>\n

So, in basketball, as you learn about playing post defense, whether to play fully behind someone, play\u00a0 3\/4th<\/sup> coverage, or full denial in front of someone while depending on weak-side help to cover the lob pass to the baseline…… you also begin to see that elegant simplicity that ties it all together: Don’t allow the guy you’re guarding to catch the ball in his favorite spot.<\/p>\n

The same concept applies to learning more about the topic of attraction and dating.\u00a0 There are a lot of fine nuances to it, and you can delve into fascinating details regarding social interactions between human beings, but there is a simplicity that ties it all together.<\/p>\n

When I began to study all of this stuff, I didn’t care about the details.\u00a0 I just wanted to know what to say to girls upon approaching them.\u00a0 That’s all I cared about.\u00a0 Somehow, on the way to learning that, I became really involved in learning far more than I had set out to do.\u00a0 I delved deep into understanding nuances of social interactions and the psychology of people’s behaviors.\u00a0 I even became a certified hypnotherapist in the process, and had you told me that 10 years ago, I would have completely laughed at you.<\/p>\n

One of those common themes is “Don’t be a pussy.<\/span>”\u00a0 You can get knee deep in theory, and I am happy to indulge the intellectual side of you, but really, a common theme that encapsulates the idea brilliantly is, “Don’t be a Pussy.”\u00a0 I could expand on that, but that’s a topic for another day.<\/p>\n

Another coming trend is “Logic Vs. Emotion<\/span><\/strong>.” \u00a0That’s the topic for today. \u00a0Those of you who have listened to my audio product are aware of this dynamic, as I make it a blatant point to deliver this message. \u00a0A little reminder, however, never hurt anyone so let’s delve more into that.<\/p>\n

So let’s get back to my last Blog entry regarding “Being Fine the Way You Are,” self-acceptance, and improving confidence.<\/p>\n

It’s a matter of how you look at it.\u00a0\u00a0 You may be well dressed, well groomed and have pleasant to interact with socially, but your self-image of your own person may be rather poor.\u00a0 So really, you are not “Fine just the way you are” in a metaphoric sense. \u00a0You must work on improving your self-image<\/span><\/strong>.\u00a0\u00a0 This takes a bit of effort, but it’s also the most rewarding part of the experience that pays the biggest dividends.<\/p>\n

In that regard, a Blog commenter responded to my last Blog Article:<\/p>\n

“Knowing how to think is good but this doesnt change our feelings much. Pick up is in most part about us feeling confident.<\/em>”<\/p>\n

I see where he is coming from, but the mistake in his approach is that he is approaching the situation logically. \u00a0He is applying a logical translation to something that must recognized intuitively. \u00a0Knowing something logically does not always influence behavior.<\/p>\n

His error lies in that he is trying to take logical knowledge and apply it in order to change his feelings.<\/p>\n