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Talk to a friend the other day, we used to pretty close.\u00a0 Hadn\u2019t spoken since to him since 1996.\u00a0\u00a0 The wonders of the Internet and modern day communications\u2026.\u00a0 On a whim, I did a search on facebook and found his profile.\u00a0 Got an excited reply back from him, and so we got on the phone.<\/p>\n
Things have changed since we graduated college together.\u00a0 He is married and has 3 kids, and as for me, well, I am giving dating advice on the Internet.\u00a0 That was all irrelevant though. We started chatting and it was like old times again, laughing about the mischief we used to create at a university where we couldn\u2019t stand most of the faculty in the department, (who probably couldn\u2019t stand us either, I am pretty sure.)<\/p>\n
Yeah, there was A LOT of, \u201cMan, remember the we did this and we did that, and the timet where we we made a video about Professor L***** basically calling him an asshole? \u00a0It wasn\u2019t so much the nostalgic reminiscing that was intriguing.\u00a0 It was that we had the same fun crazy conversation we had back in college, making fun of things, goofing off, laughing and bullshitting around.<\/p>\n
Halfway through our rather lengthy phone conversation, my old pal\u2019s comment echoed my own thoughts.\u00a0 He said, \u201cWow, this is weird.\u00a0 This conversation is like not a day has passed by.\u00a0 It\u2019s like we picked up right where we left off.\u201d<\/p>\n
Touch\u00e9.\u00a0 12 years gone by.\u00a0 Technologically, it seems like a century for a couple of guys who studied Television and Film production.\u00a0 Back then, we edited \u00be inch video tapes on giant machines with huge knobs, and connected to the Internet through AOL which gave you 10 hours of internet access per month.\u00a0\u00a0But then\u00a0It took 12-16 hours just to download one single page on the 24k dial up modems.<\/p>\n
However, rapport never dies.\u00a0 When two people have a connection, regardless of gender, sex, ethnicity, color, creed, it lasts forever.<\/p>\n
So it got me thinking about the world of dating, the advice people read, and the tangled webs they become caught up in.\u00a0 Most of the advice is written from a perspective of dehumanizing women and in order to make the process a tactical military operation. \u00a0What happens in the process is that guys get caught up in a world of tactical operations where they cannot connect with women. Why?\u00a0 Because they cease to see them as human beings.\u00a0 Read typical seduction community field-reports and they sound like this:<\/p>\n
\u201cI went out with HB 7.56, did a neg, a DHV, a DLV, and threw in some cocky funny to please double D.\u00a0 Extracted target back to my place after telling her I had weed (which I didn\u2019t, haha).\u00a0 Told her a story about my childhood and how my mom and I went through some problems, (thanks to PUA asswipe for that Story.\u00a0 It rocks)\u00a0\u00a0 Anyhow,\u00a0 HB 7.56 went down on me and then I said I had to leave.\u00a0 Oh, and here is a photograph of her.\u201d<\/p>\n
You don\u2019t have to be Sherlock fucking Holmes to see the absurdity of that.\u00a0 But then it\u2019s not surprising when I have some 20 year old kid emailing me telling me that he has approached 3000 women and has less than 10 dates to show for it.<\/p>\n
Just statistically playing the law of averages at a supremely conservative 5%, he ought to have had a 150 dates (with different women) out of that.\u00a0 I understand his frustration and I understand his dilemma.\u00a0 Being even more frustrated, he turns to more tactics.\u00a0 Perhaps he needs better tactics, maybe his DHVs are not up to par, or maybe he needs to do more back turns, more negs and learn to be more \u201cAlpha.\u201d<\/p>\n
Yet, he fails to see the elephant in the living room: He is not connecting with them on ANY level.\u00a0 He is conducting a dancing monkey performance, and he is not suave enough, or enough of a con-man to sell it.\u00a0 (Yes, I emailed the kid back telling him about my opinion of his issues, and how he needs to start fixing it.)<\/p>\n
But I know that he is not alone.\u00a0 There are other guys out there going through the same thing.\u00a0 They may not be batting at .1% (one tenth of one percent) in getting dates, they\u2019re not doing too stellar either.\u00a0\u00a0 The first issue is that guys get sucked into gimmicks instead of developing themselves to become more well rounded individuals.\u00a0 The second issue is that they don\u2019t connect with people in general, MALE or FEMALE\u2026<\/p>\n
This is by no means advocating that guys run out profess their love to some woman they’ve known for 30 minutes. That’s not what I am talking about. \u00a0It’s having the ability, and more importantly, the desire to go forward in establishing connections with people you like and respect. \u00a0(And on the same token, cutting off the leeches and douchebags that are undesirable persons.)<\/p>\n
At the end of the day,\u00a0gimmicks are forgotten,social proof can dissipate,<\/strong>money can be blown,<\/strong> but a human genuine connection is the only thing that lasts. Even if you haven\u2019t talked to someone in 12 fucking years, and you pick up the phone to reconnect.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" Rapport Lives Forever . . Talk to a friend the other day, we used to pretty close.\u00a0 Hadn\u2019t spoken since to him since 1996.\u00a0\u00a0 The wonders of the Internet and…<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[20,12],"tags":[39,38,37],"class_list":["post-96","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-human-social-psychology-and-behavior","category-stories","tag-connections","tag-friends","tag-rapport"],"aioseo_notices":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/96","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=96"}],"version-history":[{"count":10,"href":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/96\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":106,"href":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/96\/revisions\/106"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=96"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=96"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/attractwomenanywhere.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=96"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}