How to Spot Promiscuous Women
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Oh, how I have another simply awesome blog article for ya. This time, it’s about tell-tale signs that a girl you’re chatting with in this Bar/Nightclub is promiscuous and will sleep with you pretty quickly.
A little backdrop as to what inspired this article: I am hanging with some pals and a friend of a friend is talking about how he’d like to just once try having a one night stand with a girl he met at a bar. Just once, he’d like to walk in, meet a girl and take her home. That’s what he tells me!
This is a big deal to him, and while I don’t think of this as some accomplishment, it dawns on me that most men have never done something like this. To some guys, the completion of this task holds some form of validation. So, I am going to provide a few tips on some of the secrets of what guys who are good at this are able to do.
Its significance and what it means to you personally “to accomplish this” is between you and your therapist.
Realize the irony of the situation: Women are under the impression that any guy can walk into a busy nightclub filled with drunks and pull someone home. They’ll advise you, “Hey, just walk into a bar and you can get laid.” Why do they believe that? Why does their life experience indicate that? Because their impressions are formed from the 20-30% of men who ever approach them in these environments. Now, some of these guys are smooth operators, and some are just aggressive belligerent drunk idiots and play the numbers until they find that straggler. (See Limping Gazelle game on this blog for reference.)
However, keep in mind that female impressions are formed by the guys that do approach them, not by the majority who sit & look at them from afar. (Which constitutes 80% of men.)
What if you’re one of those guys who has a dream to have a same-night lay? (Let’s hope it’s not your only dream, but one of those things you want to “accomplish” like the guy I mentioned above.)
Even though I barely go to bars/clubs anymore, I’ll throw some pearls of wisdom at ya, and what you do with it is your responsibility. An important part of having one night stands comes down approaching the proper type of woman who has made it a habit to do this sort of thing. Granted, there have been times where I’ve met a girl and it led to us sleeping together rather quickly because we had amazing chemistry. That can happen. However, you are not loitering at bars seeking for that one individual with amazing chemistry, and let’s face it: You’re in a f**king nightclub. Most of the people in there aren’t that worthwhile for relationships.
Hence, screening for the proper type is one of the most important parts of the process. This is a huge part of the puzzle most men miss, and it’s one that “Players” intuitively understand.
In my recent visit to Phoenix, my buddy Jon and I had a fun conversation comparing notes as to what mannerisms these type of girls display. This goes back to the archetype stuff I’ve been talking about consistently throughout this blog.
Again, people (male as well as female) fall into various archetypes. Those archetypes always consistently display the same behavioral patterns. By identifying the behavioral patterns, we can work backwards to identify the archetype. Think of it as reverse engineering.
Simply put: Promiscuous girls you run into every weekend at bars have certain habits, mannerisms, vernacular, and behaviors that give them away.
Knowing this information helps you in two ways:
- Look for the type that is readily available in bars/nightclubs to sleep around with anyone (including you.). Important distinction is: Don’t think you’re special. You’re one of many.
. - Help you cut your losses early & move on if you’re NOT interested in certain types, particularly the likes of ones who come with drama, are just completely dysfunctional.
The second point is just as important. You may be seeking a relationship. It’s extremely important to be able to weed out women who are not suitable for you as well. I am going to address this further in the next article.
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Addendum for those who have reading comprehension issues in the comments section of this article: The article does not imply that promiscuous women are “Bad” people. However, SOME of these women (such as drama-addicts) are toxic individuals to have around in your life, and I have specifically noted those.
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Signs that the girl you’re talking with in the bar is promiscuous:
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- Tells you about often & repeated bouts of drunken debauchery.
“Oh, wow, I was so wasted last weekend, and then got hammered again last night on a Wednesday…. And I have to recover for a party this coming Friday.”
Not an isolated incident but a repeated pattern. Also safe to say, you can probably assume this is not a career-minded person either. This girl sleeps around, and may leave with you. You may have to endure alcohol breath and drunken antics…. but chances are higher she’ll leave with you come last call.
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- Has a lot of guy friends. Does not get along with other girls. (Credit this one to Jon)
Always competing for attention, has trouble maintaining friendships with women. Has lots of guy friends, has hooked up with many of them. (One notable exception to the rule above, I’d like to add: “Alpha-Females”, the athletic “Tomboy” types, but they’re a different breed and more rare to find. Do a search on this blog and you can read all about “Alpha Females” on as well.) As a side-note, most alpha-females don’t frequent nightclubs too often.
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- Refers to her girlfriends as Bitches, causally.
Example: “Hey bitches, what’s the plan tonight?”
To me, this is perhaps the greatest tell-tale sign of a girl who is not only promiscuous, but also attention seeking. I don’t think it has ever failed. Someday, I may run into one exception, but it has not occurred yet. Please note the word bitch is used casually. (Not used in hostility or judgment.)
The amazing (and yet frightening) thing about the casual usage of the word “Bitch” is that it is cross-generational. I’ve seen 22 year old girls do it, and I’ve been to that Cougar-bar in Manhattan Beach and have seen 40 year old females use it. Same exact behavior pattern, stemming from the same exact personality type. They’re also the type to avoid, if you want someone of substance. As I said, more on that later.
As soon as you hear that casual reference, “You bitches look cute tonight,” you already know this chick sleeps around, and most likely, so do all of her friends, including the married ones!!
This is also an immediate sign of a woman you’d never want to pursue a relationship with. (Not because they’re promiscuous, but rather because you’ll find that they’re self-absorbed and very drama prone. Research your own experience.)
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- Tries to talk tough and ghetto.
Example: “I would have fucked her up” or “I’d have knocked out that bitch.”
Fill in the blanks here. You already know who you’re dealing with.
PS. That’s a double whammy, as she used the word bitch and talked tough. (And we’re talking about White chicks here.)
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- Uses overly dramatic & yet emotionally-empty phrases often,
“I missed you girlie. You’re so the best! I love you guys so much…. “
The usage of emotional hyperbole in casual conversation denotes a promiscuous girl. Basically, it’s like this: You see these plastered on a Facebook page and within 10 seconds, you already know the score… (because you read my awesome article.) Just an extra free tip from me when you’re cruising through social media postings.
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- Cigarette Smoking – Credit Jon for this one.
This is Jon’s greatest tell-tale sign. There is a correlation between risk taking behavior and promiscuity. If she is willing to kill her to blow puff to look cool, she is willing to do a lot of other things. I am not sure how this would correlate in Europe for example, but it definitely applies in the United States where smoking is hugely frowned upon, and specially in California.
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- The Skank tonality.
One of my favorites to joke about. I don’t even have to see the person’s face sometimes. If I hear the skank-tonality from behind, I know the type.
It’s difficult to describe that on paper, but these girls sound like every sentence has a question mark at the end of it, and they drag the last word. “Like, oh my gosh, that is sooo weiiiiiiiiiiiird????” (weird would sound like “We-Eeeeeerdd?” It sounds like a question, but it’s not. It’s a statement. There was an episode of the TV show “Family Guy”: where little Stewie points this out regarding a girl Brian the dog is dating. (If you’ve seen that episode, then you exactly know what skank tonality is.)
If you hear that speech pattern, you immediately know two things within a few seconds:
1. Girls sleeps around a lot.
2. May not be gainfully employed.
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- Drama. This is huge! She is telling you about drama.
“My friend Lisa broke up with her boyfriend, was late to the post office, ran over a cow, had to move out, missed her paycheck, which was eaten by the cow she ran over, that cow was turned into steak, and gave me indigestion because of the paycheck it had eaten……. Well, I really think Lisa PLANNED All of this to get back at me since she is so jealous of me.”
It never ends…. The drama with her will never end………
I am going to cover “Drama” in the next article, regarding girls you want to run AWAY from. However, when you’ve heard that dramatic story, you KNOW you’ve met someone who’ll sleep with you quickly if that’s what you seek. This type is also a toxic personality to have around. (Reading challenged critics, take note.) If you’re at a place in life where you seek a meaningful relationship with a cool woman, run for the hills if you hear drama stories.
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- Inner Thigh touch-
Jon really wanted to add this one. I suppose it’s an obvious on some level, and it’s not something you’d experience right away, but a lot of guys are sometimes clueless. If her hand should brush your inner thigh during the convo, well, it’s pretty much a done deal.
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- Girls who utter the words you, “I hate Drama”.
“Oh, my, Gosh! I hate drama! Like, I am so over drama.”
Usually, it’s the girl above whose friend’s paycheck was eaten by the cow telling you this. Girls who don’t have drama, don’t say “I hate drama” because it does not occur to them. Now, if you’re the girl above, you deal with it on a daily basis, so the topic is always fresh on your mind. Since it’s prevalent in your life, you make point to mention it in conversation.
So FYI: As soon as you hear (or read) the following words from a girl: “I hate drama” or “I am so over all this drama,” you know 3 things:
- This girl has lots of drama.
- She’ll be telling about it often, if you see her more than once. (Poison for a relationship.)
- She’ll sleep with you pretty quickly. Yep.
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- She tells you, “I’m trying to be good.”
I don’t even know where to start with this one. This could be the girl who had to move out of a small town at some point because she was basically ran out. (yes, I’ve met them,) If someone is trying to change his/her ways, They don’t say “I am TRYING to be good.” They just do it. This is like your buddy who is over-weight telling you he is trying to lose weight….. for the past 3 years. You get the idea pal…
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- She mentions Drugs.
Talking about drugs, Ecstasy, Cocaine, Speed, is also a sign of girls who sleep around. Unfortunately, with these girls, it goes beyond sex for just pleasure. Sometimes, it’s having sex to GET the drugs for free. And by the way, if you hear “Heroine”, run away. Don’t walk. Run. (Can’t speak from personal experience but I’ve seen enough cracked out people.)
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- She tells you, “I don’t date.”
“I just don’t date. I am over the dating thing. I am taking a break from it.”
Jon pointed out this one, and man, it’s true!
That’s fine! If you had your cute Star Trek universal translator, what you’d really hear is, “I sleep around, and then complain that I can’t have decent relationships. I’ll sleep with you too IF you’re very sexual with me.”
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- Self-Proclaimed Bitches
“Oh, I am just a bitch”
Girls who tell you in a proud manner, “Oh, I am just a bitch” are promiscuous as well, and also have toxic personalities. This is usually a cry for attention and attempts to claw at holding on self-grandeur. (Mainly because it doesn’t take any talent or hard-work to be rude.) Nevertheless, you know she sleeps around. (Credit Jon for this one as well.) Having read my blog, when you hear this phrase, you already know the score. These girls are also toxic for relationships.
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- It’s closing Time AND She is still around.
Yep, it’s 2 AM (Nightclub just closed), people are loitering outside and there they are: Drunk and walking around in circles. I picked up on this in the period I was going to clubs often, probably because, I was the ONLY sober person at the time. In my experience, quality women don’t frequent nightclubs on a weekly basis and if they go to celebrate a friend’s birthday, they’re usually out of there sometime around midnight or 12:30 AM. It’s a strange phenomenon and now you’ll notice it too. They sort of vanish. You had a nice conversation, she seemed really cool and poof, an hour later she disappeared. What you have at 2 am is often the underachiever who is also promiscuous. I used to know dudes who stayed home til 1:30 in the morning then rolled out to the clubs at closing time just for that reason….. The fact that she is simply STILL there at closing time is often a sign as well…..
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Subtleties:
And then we get to the really subtle stuff. You spend enough time talking to girls, you hone your eyes and ears and cute little subtle phrases tell you that they are promiscuous. These are tiny phrases that most people completely miss. They seem innocent and completely in the norm, but I catch them, and now, so will you.
Example: “I Know, right???”
That phrase above, said with a certain flare and tone equals girls who will sleep with you pretty quickly. Now, they say the phrase frequently, so if you’re tuned in, you’ll recognize it.
Some random individual will read that at some point and say, “Oh come on! How can you determine someone’s sexual behavior from a few phrases, or sentences?” And the short answer it that I am just good at identifying people’s characters and behaviors.
Keep in mind that, the above individuals display the same type of demeanor and body language as well. If you know screen properly, then you have isolated the right type who will leave with you. Now, it’s a matter of attracting them, and having the proper logistics. Is there an after party? Inviting her back to your house? You have to provide the logistics! This is information guys you deem as “Players” intuitively know. Look for this type, have a bit of fluff conversation, it’s closing time, and hey, let’s have a little after-party.
Congrats. You now know information that only a small percentage of men are privy to. They may know it intuitively having never broken down consciously, but these are the subtle clues they use to determine the right type. In the next article, I am going to talk about how to use above information to AVOID certain personality types who will be toxic to your life. You may be a guy who has his life together but not too skilled with women. Dating women who love snorting cocaine, who bring drama and then spend countless house telling you how much they hate it, is a terrible idea. Stay tuned…… for the next article How To Spot Promiscuous Girls Part 2
Cameron
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Addendum 2:
This article seems to be elicit strong reactions. It’s based on personal experiences and observations at nightclubs. Keep in mind, I’ve dated girls who have (By common American standards) had a high number of sexual partners. However, they did not have the toxic aforementioned drama-filled lives. They were just cool girls whom I dated for a while. They certainly weren’t having sex for validation or to score cocaine from some dude at a bar. This seems to be more prevalent in Europe than in the U.S.
On that same note, I’ve gone on FIRST dates where I ended up sleeping with those girls that very first night. I also ended up dating many of those same girls for quite a while. (Not random bar hook ups). You’ll hear this common philosophy from guys often regarding every girl, “Hey man, if she is doing it with you, then she is doing that everyone, she has no standards.” I chose to attribute it to great chemistry. Yes, it’s self-indulgent, but if you’re confident in yourself, you can choose to just as easily believe that she did it because she found you attractive for various reasons, not because she has no standards. Why take the low self-esteem route that you’re just like every other man she has dated? Why not take the high self-esteem route that she has super high standards. (In part 2 of the article, I do cover the Lumberg effect) Keep in mind, this wasn’t a random night-club encounter. I said “Dates.”
If you’re an experience guy, you’ll read this article and think, “Yep, yep, yep, that’s right. Haha. So true! I’ve seen this, that…..” If you are not experienced, just look at it as an educational tool for identifying the archetypes of people you will come across in bars & night clubs. If you’re a girl with decent standards in men, you’ll have a good laugh because you have observed this. If you’re one of the women who has led the above life, slept with dudes to get free cocaine, you’ll be angry and upset. Instead of unleashing your anger on me, look at this as a fortuitous event. Maybe this article is a wake-up call to change your ways by changing your values & beliefs.
cici.. before u claim u dont blieve this artical… maby u should look for actual evidence in the real world by testing first.. rather then basing ur conclution off of a random and possbly untrust worthy girl said in the comments
You should add “She’s a BISEXUAL or pretends to be bisexual” to the list. Girls with lesbian tendencies are even worst than the girls who don’t have lesbian tendencies, & many of my male friends have gotten betrayed & cheated on by these crazy hos. Which is why you should NEVER trust a chick who says or shows she’s bi.
Some chicks lie about being bisexual & other’s are for real. All I know is that all the promiscuous chick will want to have sex with ANYONE, & bisexuals seem to exhibit the “I’ll sleep with anyone” behavior.
So brothers, if you see a girl acting bisexual, watch out! Because you’re dealing with a promiscuous whore.
who ever wrote this is a sexist cunt
I liked this article. It reminded me of my 20’s and being single and “oh my god!” and “clubbing with my bitches!” and being “so over all the DRAMA!”.
I will say this, I knew I was skanky. I knew that my short skirt and obscene confidence was attractive (I also knew that my really stupid friend was more attractive because she was really stupid).
I never felt taken advantage of. I knew what I was doing and the nights I wanted a one night stand, I had one. Sometimes just in a dark corner right outside of that bar, because I don’t know you, I don’t want to get in your car. If you were attractive to me, and attracted to me and it was obvious, it made me feel like I was the one who was in charge. You couldn’t help yourself… and I was actually taking advantage of you.
I’m married now so I really do not club more than a couple of times a year, but when I do it’s a rush to look around the bar and make eye contact with some man on the prowl and know that I could probably have him if I wanted.
Interesting article to me because I always thought I knew what the men were looking for, and this basically confirms it.
I know heaps of people that stay till the club closes because they like having big nights out, and ones that have boyfriends that stay till the morning. That was the stupidest thing I’ve ever fucking read.
I usually like to read the the comments first to make sure I do not repeat what someone else has said but that is not going to happen.
I want to state (from a female perspective) that you are not completely accurate and you may be misleading some of your readers. I am 27 and have been with 2 people. I’ve gone to a club 5 times in my life and when I go I stay till it closes for the reason of I don’t do it often. I use the phrase I know right on a regular basis, I don’t have many girl friends ( that’s not to say I don’t get along with girls but EVERY girl has more guy friends because girls are highly emotional and hard to maintain in a large group) I talk ghetto every now and then and sometimes call myself a bitch because I know I’m not the nice person I project myself to be. When I approached on evening out I able to maintain conversations with men but am very upfront that of they are looking for one night stand or anything further not to waste their time. Please men don’t use this guide to bring a woman home. Its as easy as having enough confidence in yourself to make a connection home and someone not willing to leave with you will most likely tell you. Ps the inner thigh thing -ridiculous I put my hand on my thigh all the time for a place to put it.
Please excuse the horrible grammar as I am typing on the mobile make the best of what I wrote :)
Hey, I just wanted to speak my piece, as a member of that demographic populace labeled here as “slutty women.” (Or skanks, which I like better, as it sounds even grosser somehow, more brazen).
I have been promiscuous for good and for bad reasons. The bad, validation is a big part of it (and it does have Freudian roots), but also, at times, pure and even conscious self-destruction, in which I would purposefully choose assholes, Republicans, men I was less into than more attractive options, or even those I thought mightrhurt me (and some of them did). This is not your run-of-the-mill masochism, where everything is staged; in real life you take real risks with real sadists, and I did. (I found most men, once were done with the weak urge, with whatever their psychological reasons were for wanting to devalue and/or use me, were not up to the greater task, sadly). The good has been when I simply wanted to connect with someone, to sleep with someone I found attractive in some way and connected with on some level, and knew it would probably be a one-night thing because of the circumstance in which we met or because that’s all I wanted it to be. I’ve had some amazing one-night stands that way and exactly zero amazing one-night stands the other way. So when I am in the mood for NSA sex, I have to assess where this impulse is coming from, if it is self-destructive or life-affirming. Relationships are not the only way to have life-affirming sex, and can often be as or more toxic than the sex you have to tide yourself over until you find someone you really like (especially if you get into a relationship specifically to avoid having to go out looking for sex, with all the risks–emotional but also predominantly physical–that entails for women).
I do have some alcoholic tendencies, like most people with bipolar disorder who self-medicate and like many people who have experienced traumas (both of which are where my aforementioned self-destructive tendencies came from, which I would say is a kind of sexual self-harm, like cutting). I also just like a wild time, sometimes. More so when I was younger. Why should men be the only ones who get to have fun? Why should I feel pressure to act like a “classy lady” all the time to be “dateable?” The truth is, I wouldn’t want to date a guy who thinks this way, and thinks a person’s worth can be measured by how much or little trouble vs. pleasure he or she gives you in the moment or in the long-term. Love is not logical, and relationships based on utilitarian philosophies sound like the definition of boring to me. We learn more from our failures than our successes, and we have to let ourselves fail. And feel. Which means deciding that some people are interesting enough and attractive enough to override some obvious flaws (women do this all the time), and that choosing a partner should not be about choosing someone who will best conform to what you want from them. That is not what love is about. Love, like sex, entails risk, and there is no reason to choose women for long-term relationships based on what you which you want more from them. Love partners should be chosen based on chemistry as well as compatibility and a liberal dose of compassion applied, especially where pasts are concerned. Women do this for men all the time, and if we didn’t, you all would be fucked too if single past age 35.
In any case, when I am in a relationship, I don’t cheat. I never have. I think this is what most men are afraid of when they think of “slutty women.” But sleeping around at periods in your life does not equal compulsiveness (yeah, upwards of hundreds of partners perhaps, but 15+ ruling someone out as relationship material? Ridiculous, and so immature. A girl on the rebound who just wants to enjoy herself for a few months could easily rack up 15 guys without even ever having sex more than twice a week. Most so-called “promiscuous” girls sleep around far less than that, maybe two or three guys a month, at most). And it doesn’t make you undateable, or any likelier to cheat, if you are a person who believes in being honest with your partner. Simply put, promiscuity does not equal loose morals (as is so often presumed) or loose anything else for that matter, as a promiscuous women is getting far less sex than a woman in a healthy monogamous relationship.
Sometimes you just can’t find that right person, or you’re at a time in your life when you are still moving around a lot, or you’ve recently come out of a relationship and are newly single and trying to be more selective, or you’re just not ready for any number of reasons.
For example, I know that psychologically right now I am not ready for a fulfilling, mutually independent, reciprocal long-term relationship, unless I meet someone REALLY wonderful and amazing and understanding; that does not mean I won’t be, someday, just that I am not ready or willing to be the emotional, understanding one again, a role women often find themselves in in relationships regardless of who really needs more care in the relationship; and men who are in balance but are not looking to enter into a relationship with someone still a bit imbalanced might find some of my issues a turn-off, at the moment. Thus I am working on my own life and bettering myself and trying to come to terms with my emotions about some of the things that have happened in the past–and be aware that many women who engage in self-destructive promiscuity are doing so because of abuse at the hands of men, which they seek to repeat and somehow change the outcome of, or which shapes their self-worth, and that such women are not always fucking you for validation but because they secretly hate you, and if that’s the kind of sex you want to have, well…because sex is always also an emotional connection, and you can choose to have it be toxic or you can choose to have it be pleasant. And if you deliberately seek out the toxic then what does that say about you (except I guess that you are equally self-and-other destructive)? If seeking out a one-night stand for purely recreational interpersonal pleasure purposes I would always try to find the girl who is looking for the good kind, the fun kind of the real connection, and who is just in-between relationships and wants some relief and some closeness, not the self-destructive kind…
…but the point is, that people change, and someday I will be ready, or meet the right person, and I will be faithful to them as I always have, won’t be just dating them until something better comes along (which a lot of women do to avoid being labeled sluts, and which hurts you men emotionally when they then cheat on, unceremoniously dump or, in nobler scenarios, tactfully break up with you), and the fact that I have had multiple partners won’t mean jack shit or make me less worthwhile (and in fact I think only makes me more interesting, in that I’ve been through some shit in my life, which most vanilla people can’t say, and survived it). And I think that my overriding personality characteristics, of intelligence and sweetness (because, deep down, I’m kind of innocent), will matter a lot more than whether or not I can remember the name of every guy I slept with. And any guy who thinks differently is sadly enslaved to such misogynistic-masking-as-utilitarian thinking and is not worth my time.
So really I guess I wrote this long comment for any women visiting this site and feeling bad about themselves, as the men here are, quite, frankly, not worth my time (in or out of bed, since I don’t hate fuck anymore).
Carmen
Oh, and one more thing: all my closest friends are women. I find it hard to have male friends because they mostly want to sleep with me or see me as a piece of meat. I only have 2 or 3 good male friends, and loads of close female friends, some of whom have been very close in a romantic way, even if it never turned sexual. And I only smoke when I’m drinking which is, incidentally, usually when I’m on the prowl. (Maybe I am a different kind of girl in the day)? I think I drink to loosen up so I don’t feel bad about the fact that I’m looking for a partner for sex, and also because it loosens me up in general, makes me sociable, outgoing, etc. etc. (i.e., I still have trouble going out stone cold sober and talking to men knowing I am sizing them up for sex, as I carry the whole guilt and shame complex about it because of bullshit like this–like how men view women who want to have casual sex). I think I should give up the alcohol, or only accept those first few drinks; it would make the subsequent sex a lot better. Apart from that, I’m not a valley girl, never use such empty phrases as the key phrases mentioned nor would ever refer to my friends as bitches (that seems to be extremely country-specific and perhaps even regional), and if there is drama it’s because there is actually drama (sometimes because of shit men have done to me when I’ve been out looking for a good time, probably because of manuals like this, thinking it’s perfectly okay, if I’m a good-time girl, to try to take something by force). There’s no drama if there’s no drama, and a one-night stand is usually just that and nothing more. Sometimes a FWB situation blossoms, though you have to be careful with that that no one gets hurt, and sometimes a relationship blossoms.
And yes, I am aware that I have hit a lot of your marks (of saying I’m trying to change, though at least I admit that if there is drama, there is drama: but I try to avoid it), but that doesn’t mean it’s not true. People do change. It’s not the looking-for-women-to-bang-for-the-night tone of this article that bothers me, it’s the looking-for-damaged-women-to-use-and-discard tone that bothers me (and the way these women are being put down and degraded in this article, termed “worthless”). It just seems mean-spirited.
Why not write an article about how to spot an empowered woman who’s looking for sex for the night? Or about how to help a girl who is a friend who is exhibiting the signs of pathological sexual behavior, to become a healthier kind of sexual being? Whether this purports to be simply a manual or not, clearly it is lacking objectivity (as is any human endeavor) and so the angle of the piece must be examined. The dismissive mean-spiritedness of it is apparent. You can’t decide sex with certain people is a precious, treasured thing, and with other people is merely a sign of your contempt. That kind of compartmentalizing doesn’t actually work, in the long run.
Men, if you are human beings who are not looking to fuck women out of a toxic agenda, don’t look for the kind of damaged women this author is recommending. Look for a woman who seems to be having a good time and is making the decision to sleep with you, not sleeping with you for any toxic or self-destructive reason. Women who go to bars alone are actually a good pick, as it takes serious stones to do that, and is a very deliberate act (unlike getting carelessly drunk and allowing oneself to be led home by whomever). Show some compassion and treat women with respect, regardless of whether they treat themselves with respect. In turn you will then be treating yourself with respect, psychologically, in not seeking to prey on vulnerable women.
And as for “damaged women” and whether you should reject girlfriends based on number of partners or former behavior…it all comes down to whether the good outweighs the bad, and current behavior. There are many women like me who are faithful in relationships and don’t remain abstinent while out of them.
And the evopsych bullshit is such nonsense, I don’t even want to touch it. Women are much more likely to get pregnant with multiple partners, as men can only perform a certain number of times a day, and in fact our female ancestors were more promiscuous than the males (because they could be). Even the tip of a male’s penis is designed such that it pulls out the last man’s ejaculate. And as our ancestors like raised children communally, the way the great apes do, it didn’t really matter so much who was the father (although alpha males obviously take precedence and get first mating; still, there is enough to go around). Look at the bonobos for god’s sake, who use sex as a tool for mediation and greeting and pair-bonding, even between family members and in homosexual pairings. The old idea that women aren’t as horny as men needs to go out the window too, and has also been disproven. None of that evopsych nonsense explains the double standard. Patriarchy–which is defined as a widespread system of domination of females by males, and which often with it entails misogyny, as a corrective and as an underpinning value–does. And how did patriarchy arise in the first place? Hint: this whole bullshit about the madonna/whore complex, control of women, their relative worth as sexual objects or as partners is part of it. Although a lot of it has to do with the rise of agriculture too and stupid logical fallacies and false assumptions based on community stature and physical capabilities. There are myriad reasons.
Anyway, if you want it to be just as easy for a man to get laid as it is for a woman, throw all this shit out the window and stop labeling the women who go home with you for the night sluts. Then more of the “good girls” might be willing to consider it.
I can see the point of the article, and can see how it is useful, though I wouldn’t apply this to myself.
I am a man, the very definition of an alpha-male; strong, tough (Karate black belt, MMA), athletic and I have a fine-ass beard, oh and believe me, I get a LOT of female attention (not too long ago, a female friend outright asked me to fuck her in a public toilet).
I, however, believe the best sex is the sex that lies within a relationship. I’ve had 3 sexual partners, 1 which was a one night stand after I broke up with my first long term girlfriend, and the other two were in committed long term relationships. If you don’t know what I mean, try it, a woman who knows your body and knows what you like can blow your fucking mind.
I really have a point I need to make, and it’s been something that is happening more and more often; women are using themselves up whilst they are young, then when they realise they are a used-up, saggy whore who is only good for sex, they try to get with a beta who’ll actually treat them like the ‘pretty princess’ that they aren’t. Look, a whore, a slut, a crappy lock, is not relationship potential, they are cheap, worthless sex potential.
If you can’t respect yourself enough to not open your legs for any man that gives you the time of day, then you don’t deserve any better than the caliber of men who will use this article to approach women like you.
God, it’s like skipping in the middle of a road and then wondering why you’re flattened. I will repeat myself; MEN LIKE THIS ARE PLAYING THE GAME THAT YOU ALLOW TO HAPPEN. GET SOME FUCKING CLASS, ACT LIKE A FUCKING LADY, SAVE YOURSELF FOR SOMEONE WHO GIVES A SHIT AND YOU’LL NEVER HAVE TO WORRY ABOUT GUYS WHO WANT CHEAP SEX.
There we go, now stop complaining silly women ^^
this article is describing typical trailer trash. All girls love sex, but only certain types enjoy and have the sexual maturity for a one night stand, these girls are not identifiable in any stereotype way.
my partner is a slut and I love her for it because she is interesting and open minded, I love sluts. but she is quiet, non trashy, a nurse, and fits none of the criteria mentioned in here.
I bet most of you never get laid!
Excellent amazing article. I wish I had stumbled upon this article a long time ago. I was chasing after a slut that fit all the points that was mentioned in the article for almost a year and a half. STAY AWAY from these type of women. Only hump them once, twice the most and that’s it or even better yet RUN AS FAST AS YOU CAN! These type of women don’t ever change. I was going after a 32 year old slut. BIG MISTAKE! I forgive her but I seriously think these type of girls are the kind that have seriously bad relationships starting with the father.
Hey “Dude from Somewhere,”
Glad you enjoyed the article. Year and a half? Wow! That’s a long time. Well, learn from it and apply it so that you can meet better people next time.
By the way, I just realized something: The comments on here (both MALES & FEMALES) mentioned the word “Sluts.” (And I wrote this article over 4 years ago).
It’s interesting to note since the article never mentions that word once. I discussed promiscuous women which is more of a non-judgmental factual term.
Here is the key “Dude,”, you were pursuing someone who had a TOXIC PERSONALITY . “Slut” often denotes someone who has slept with a lot of men, but that’s not what caused you heartache. It was the toxic personality. I have a series of articles on that.
That is the key takeaway here if you want to avoid falling into that trap next time. :)
Take care
Cameron
Hello gentlemen,
I suggest this article should be retitled “How to Spot Promiscuous Women ~ beginners guide or part one” , something along those lines. The content is fine and the experiences are their own interpretations and conclusions. So this is fine too.
However, this is really basic stuff. characteristics, signs and a general understanding of your quarry that you should have all developed and mastered by nursery (kindergarten).
I would suggest to any and all of those who found enlightenment or a tip to remember here to just try and talk to any female that you would be buzzing about the following morning after bedding her, having a genuine interest in a woman and exciting them intellectually is not only the best way to enjoy this part of the night out but it is the best, by an immeasurable margin, Afrodisiac. excite them mentally and they get excited physically. people enjoy talking about themselves, so they’ll enjoy talking to you, the rest will just follow.